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  • Why High Achieving Men Fail In Relationships - Jordan Candlish
    2025/05/09

    You can be crushing it in business… but if your relationship is draining your energy, it'll sabotage everything.

    In this raw, honest chat with Jordan Candlish, we go deep on what most high-performing men miss regarding love, leadership, and longevity in relationships.

    We unpack why your woman stops being attracted to you…
    Why you lose presence, energy, and passion…
    And how to stop your relationship from destroying your business.

    We also dive into how nervous system regulation, self-worth, seasons, shadow work, and masculine leadership can help men create deep, magnetic love without losing their mission.

    This one hit deep.

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    🔥 Timestamps

    00:00 Intro to Jordan Candlish
    00:29 How relationships secretly ruin your business
    01:14 How to tell if your relationship is draining you
    03:22 The missing piece in most modern relationships
    04:33 Why your woman feels more like a roommate
    05:57 Jordan's personal story of almost losing his relationship
    07:17 The 3-month wake-up call that changed everything
    08:23 What happens when your woman starts having fun without you
    09:43 How they reignited the attraction
    11:00 The masculine move that saved their relationship
    12:29 How to re-lead your partner after a breakdown
    13:49 Why most men can't receive love
    15:01 How emotional shutdown shows up in men
    17:04 The danger of "always needing to lead"
    18:44 Why receiving is the most underrated masculine skill
    20:14 The mother wound and avoidant patterns
    22:05 When "being nurtured" feels gross for men
    24:15 The silent rage that kills your presence
    26:03 Shadow integration = actual magnetism
    27:44 Fear in business, relationships, and social media
    30:18 The root of confidence and powerful content
    33:22 Why your season and city matter
    35:13 The hidden effects of social media on your nervous system
    38:47 The rhythms men need to honour
    41:12 How Jordan left corporate and found purpose
    44:59 The #1 energy source behind your magnetic presence
    49:14 Plants, seasons, and male personal growth
    51:29 Upcoming retreats and environments that change you

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    55 分
  • Unleash Your Masculine Charm: Use FRAME and Become Irresistible
    2025/04/25

    Learn how to use the frame to instantly become magnetic in business, dating, and social life. Stop feeling invisible. Start creating tension, opportunities, and authentic attraction using Masculine Social Dynamics (MSD).

    Frame is the secret that separates the guy who gets overlooked from the man people feel drawn to.

    In this video, I show you how to use a frame correctly, where most men mess it up, and how to build magnetic tension authentically instead of relying on fake confidence or manipulation.

    Perfect if you’re ready to level up your personal brand, leadership, dating life, and social circle with real confidence, real fun, and real power.

    🔥 What You’ll Learn:
    • How framing changes business, dating, and leadership results
    • Why internal frame is more important than external tactics
    • How playful tension creates deep connection
    • Frame examples you can steal for business, dating, and networking
    • How to spot when you’re leaking frame and self-sabotaging
    • How to stay magnetic over time without losing your edge


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    #masculinesocialdynamics #personaldevelopmentformen #magneticman #confidence #masculineframe



    🔥 Timestamps

    00:00 How Frame Makes You Magnetic
    00:31 The Invisible Man vs. The Magnetic Leader
    01:14 My Story: Quitting My Job, Launching My Business, & Dating Growth
    03:32 Why You MUST Heal First To Have Real Social Power
    04:30 Sales, Dating, & Leadership: Frame vs. Manipulation
    05:31 How I Used Frame To DM My Future Partner
    06:40 The Fun Of Framing In Dating (Examples)
    07:49 Building Real Tension Without Being Fake
    09:24 Game Theory: Why Men Who Play Win
    13:30 Frame Mistakes That Destroy Long-Term Relationships
    19:03 How Trauma Breaks Your Frame (And What To Do)
    20:05 Social Media Framing Secrets For Business
    22:07 Dating Frame Examples You Can Steal
    25:28 How To Create Tension Without Rejection
    26:46 Bad Frame = High Resistance (Fix This)
    27:18 Quick Frame Challenges To Practice
    30:03 The Power Of Eye Contact and Intimate Leadership
    31:21 Final Challenges To Master Masculine Social Dynamics

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    37 分
  • Intro to Masculine Social Dynamics: Becoming Magnetic #272
    2025/04/24

    Unlock the secrets to becoming a magnetically confident man with our intro to masculine social dynamics.

    In this video, we'll dive into the world of self-improvement, exploring the principles of authentic masculinity, emotional intelligence, and social mastery.

    You'll learn how to harness your inner power and develop the influence skills needed to build strong relationships, attract like-minded individuals, and exude confidence in any social situation. From networking tricks and alpha behaviour to dating strategies and relationship skills.

    This is your blueprint if you're tired of forcing results and want to attract the life, love, and leadership you know you're capable of.


    💥 What You'll Learn in This Video:
    • How to get over imposter syndrome as a business owner
    • The mindset shift that led me to land $1K/month clients instantly
    • The exact techniques behind Masculine Social Dynamics (Positioning, Framing, Delivery, Hosting, Authentic Engagement, etc.)
    • The magnetism model that helped me triple my income and lead men's groups
    • Why discipline alone isn't enough if your nervous system is wrecked
    • How to influence people, gain respect, and become that guy without selling out


    👇 TIMESTAMPS
    00:00 - Why MSD was created (and who it's for)
    01:58 - Pitching my first $200K offer: full breakdown
    05:59 - My first high-ticket client (and how it changed my identity)
    07:36 - Position + Frame + Delivery = MSD
    09:15 - Steamy Saturdays men's circle story
    13:20 - How MSD changes your dating, business, and friendships
    14:44 - Why you're haunted by your goals
    15:57 - The MSD 4-Step Process
    18:14 - Full MSD Skill List
    23:22 - Magnetism: The X-Factor
    24:53 - Emotional Intelligence = Leadership
    26:34 - Self-audit questions to unlock magnetism
    27:12 - Join the 7-Day Magnetic Challenge


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    Big love Corey

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    31 分
  • 6 Signs Your Business Is Failing Due To Relationship Problems #271
    2025/04/22

    Your relationship could be silently tanking your business.

    In this video, I break down the 6 signs your nervous system, energy, and focus are leaking from behind closed doors and how your relationship dynamics might be the silent killer of your momentum.

    Using Masculine Social Dynamics, I’ll show you how to take back your power, reset your nervous system, and become the most magnetic man in the room without sacrificing love OR purpose.

    If you’re a business owner, coach, or entrepreneur juggling both love and leadership — this video is for you.

    🎯 What You’ll Learn:
    • How poor relationship dynamics impact biz growth
    • Nervous system overload & performance anxiety
    • Masculine leadership tools to reclaim your energy
    • Hosting, Receivership, and In-Tension techniques
    • The power of Effortless Attraction (and how to get it back)

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    📈 Timestamps:

    0:00 - Is your relationship sabotaging your business?
    0:45 - Why biz pressure + love stress destroys magnetism
    2:00 - Sign #1: You’re drained by what you used to love
    3:40 - Sign #2: You feel like nothing’s ever enough
    5:10 - Sign #3: You always feel alone — even around others
    6:45 - Sign #4: You’re behind on important people
    8:00 - Sign #5: It all feels forced
    9:20 - Sign #6: You’re stuck in growth & it’s driving you mad
    11:00 - How to FIX it using Masculine Social Dynamics
    12:30 - Hosting, Effortless Attraction, and In-Tension
    15:10 - Final truth: It’s not about doing more. It’s about leading different

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    22 分
  • 7 Ways to Become Socially Attractive & Charismatic #270
    2025/04/21

    Ever walk into a room and feel confident… until you open your mouth?

    You feel awkward. You seek validation.....and suddenly, you’re questioning your worth.

    This video fixes that.

    I’m breaking down the 7 essential skills that make men magnetic in business, dating, and everyday social interactions using my Masculine Social Dynamics Model™ that’s helped 300+ men go from invisible to unforgettable.... hell yeah!

    You’ll learn:
    • How to position yourself as the main character in any room
    • Why authority isn’t about talking louder and what actually builds it
    • The #1 reason you feel like a fraud (and how to clear it my guy)
    • How to set calm boundaries that boost respect and attraction
    • Why “hosting” is the fastest path to magnetic energy
    • A psychology backed goodbye technique that leaves people wanting more... oh yeah!
    • How to create instant social gravity (without chasing anyone)

    Perfect for:
    🔥 Coaches, creatives & founders who feel “invisible” in high-level rooms
    🔥 Men who want to lead with presence instead of pleasing
    🔥 Anyone who feels socially drained or performative and wants to feel solid



    📍 Timestamps:
    00:00 – The reason you feel like a fraud socially
    01:19 – What is Masculine Social Dynamics?
    01:44 – Positioning: Becoming the main character
    03:22 – Authority (without being loud or pushy)
    05:11 – Authentic engagement: Rooting into the truth
    07:12 – Respect via boundaries (not people pleasing)
    09:00 – Magnetic hosting (in-person & online)
    11:31 – Saying goodbye like a leader
    13:14 – Becoming the photo/video guy to create social gravity
    14:00 – Final thoughts + challenge invitation



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    If you’re tired of feeling like you’re always performing, chasing, or forcing social energy…

    This video will help you anchor into confidence, presence, and calm power so you can finally become the man that others want to follow, connect with, and support.

    Big love,
    Corey

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    16 分
  • Men with Mums who Criticise Dad Become People Pleasers
    2025/04/20

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    You can't be magnetic if your nervous system is fried.

    And most men don't realise why they're stuck in people-pleasing, overthinking, or burnout…

    It's not a productivity issue it's some damn trauma manyne

    This video breaks down how growing up with a mum who belittled your dad silently destroys your masculine frame and how to break free from it.

    👉 Especially if you're the kind of man who:

    • Overthinks everything in business and dating
    • Struggles to lead in relationships
    • Feels exhausted no matter how "successful" he gets
    • Avoids conflict, strong women, or charging your worth
    • Feels like nothing is ever enough

    This is the masculine healing you never got and the magnetic shift that changes everything.

    In this video you'll learn:

    • How the "yes man" syndrome starts in childhood
    • Why you're addicted to chaos & avoid healthy love
    • How dad's emotional absence created your business insecurity
    • The 6-step blueprint to reclaim your masculine edge
    • Books, groups, retreats, and tools to fully rewire your patterns
    • Why your nervous system is the key to presence, polarity & profit
    • How to stop feeling like a boy in a man's life



    Timestamps:
    00:00 – The Mother Wound & Masculine Collapse
    01:00 – Why Nice Guys Stay Broke & Invisible
    03:00 – Your Nervous System is Your Magnetic Power Source
    04:58 – 6 Steps to Break the Cycle
    06:12 – Books, Retreats, & Tools That Changed My Life
    09:10 – Finding Purpose & Building Unshakeable Confidence



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    Big love,
    Corey
    Founder of Set The Standard
    Where men become magnetic, powerful, and free.

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    13 分
  • 6 Steps to Become Magnetic Without Trying #268
    2025/04/19

    Feel like you’re pushing for everything and still getting ignored?

    Like no one feels you anymore no matter how hard you try

    In this video, I break down the 6 exact steps to become magnetic without faking confidence, overexplaining, or leaking energy
    This is how you go from invisible and burned out to respected, desired, and undeniable in business, dating, and life

    Here’s what you’ll learn
    • Why people stop respecting you even when you try harder
    • How to reset your nervous system and stop repelling success
    • Why attention is NOT the same as attraction and how to flip it
    • The 6-step magnetic blueprint that builds trust, status, and energy
    • How presence, values, and boundaries create real masculine influence

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    If you’re done chasing clients girls and respect
    This is your roadmap to becoming the guy who attracts it all without forcing it

    Big love
    Corey

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  • Stop Being Walked Over & Implement These Boundaries #267
    2025/04/17

    Ever felt like people don’t respect you?

    Like you’re saying the right things but nobody listens?

    This video is the missing link the implementation piece. If you’ve ever struggled to speak up, get your needs met, or hold the frame in business, dating, or leadership… it’s probably because your boundaries are weak or unspoken.

    This is how to fix that step by step.

    In this one, I break down:
    • The 3 stages of boundaries (unknown, fighting for them, and maintaining them)
    • How to actually enforce boundaries with consequences that get respect
    • Why your nice guy habits are repelling power, women, and leadership
    • How to use non-verbal cues to protect your energy without needing to overexplain
    • A simple model to reprogram your nervous system so you stop freezing or people-pleasing when boundaries get crossed



    📍 Timestamps:
    00:00 – Why they’re not listening to you (it’s not what you think)
    03:59 – Stage 1: Unknown boundaries (most men are here)
    05:21 – How to communicate boundaries with confidence
    06:57 – What to do when people push back
    07:48 – The 4-step enforcement model (acknowledge, communicate, enforce, exit)
    09:01 – Why magnetic men have clear poles (polarisation model)
    11:05 – Reprogramming boundaries: childhood, triggers, & rewiring
    13:46 – How to test boundaries without ruining the relationship
    14:43 – The Boundary Audit Tool you can download
    15:35 – Final words: Boundaries = Magnetism
    16:03 – Quiz & challenge invite



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    If you’ve been leaking energy, overexplaining yourself, or letting people cross the line…

    This is your sign to lock in your boundaries and take back your frame.

    👥 Join our FREE community here:
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    Big love,
    Corey

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    18 分