Your wife shuts down when you open up.
She pulls away when things get close.
You feel like you’re always chasing her attention.

And now you’re asking:
“Is this what love is supposed to feel like?”

In this episode of The Secure Husband Podcast, we explain why emotionally secure men stop chasing women who are avoidant and unavailable — and what to do if you're stuck in that cycle.

You’ll learn:
✅ What avoidant attachment looks like in marriage
✅ Why insecure men feel drawn to distant women
✅ How to stop chasing emotional crumbs
✅ What secure men expect from their wives
✅ Why emotional numbness is not strength
✅ How to lead with boundaries, not begging

Here’s what we cover step-by-step:

Spot the signs of avoidant attachment

Notice how you’re chasing emotional distance

Stop mistaking emotional shutdown for strength

Heal the part of you that feels addicted to earning love

Understand why secure men walk away from these patterns

Build a life where connection is mutual and safe

This video is for you if:
✔️ Your wife avoids hard conversations
✔️ You feel like the problem — no matter how hard you try
✔️ You give your all, but get little back
✔️ You want peace, clarity, and emotional connection

The truth is simple:
Secure men don’t stay in relationships where they feel unseen, unheard, and unloved.
They don’t chase.
They don’t beg.
They lead — with calm, truth, and peace.

If you struggle with life, marriage and relationships and are ready to thrive,check out the resources from Certified Professional Coach Bruce Abbott at https://SecureHusband.com.

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#SelfWorth
#InnerChildHealing
#MensMentalHealth
#SelfLoveJourney
#EmotionalHealing
#OvercomeRejection
#HealthyMasculinity
#MarriageCoaching
#StopPeoplePleasing
#SelfGrowth

For informational purposes only. This is not a medical or psychological diagnosis. Consult your physician regarding any necessary mental health diagnosis and treatment options. Always seek professional medical advice before starting any new treatment or therapy. Any and all information by or on this site is provided for promotional or informational purposes only and is not to be relied upon as a professional medical opinion whatsoever. This includes all digital content, including but not exhaustive of, email, blog, podcasts, events, any and all social media (inclusive of: Facebook, YouTube, TikTok and Instagram), webinars and other content whether or not they are available for purchase, as resources or education and information only. All content mentioned does not constitute professional legal or medical advice and is not guaranteed to be accurate, complete, reliable, current or error-free. By using this site, you accept and agree that following any information or recommendations provided therein and all digital content channels is at your own risk.

You think your wife doesn’t want you anymore.
She never starts sex.
She’s not like she used to be.

So you feel rejected, confused, and hurt.

But what if there’s nothing wrong with her — or you?
What if she simply experiences desire differently?

In this episode of The Secure Husband Podcast, we explain the difference between spontaneous desire and responsive desire. Most men feel desire first. Most women feel desire after connection, safety, or emotional closeness.

You’ll learn:
✅ The two types of sexual desire and how they work
✅ Why your wife may not initiate but still loves you
✅ How to stop making her differences feel personal
✅ What she actually needs to feel close and connected
✅ How to build an emotional space where her desire grows

What we talk about:

Spontaneous vs. responsive desire (what they mean)

Why your wife’s desire changed after marriage

How pressure, guilt, or hinting shuts her down

Why emotional safety matters more than sex for her

What leadership looks like when her desire is slower

This episode is for husbands who:
✔️ Feel unwanted when she doesn’t start sex
✔️ Miss the closeness they once had
✔️ Think she’s broken or lost interest
✔️ Want real connection without begging or pressuring

Here’s the truth:
She’s not broken.
You’re not unwanted.
You just need a new way to lead.

This episode will help you stop reacting from pain and start building a calm, safe space where real connection — and responsive desire — can grow again.

That’s what The Secure Husband Process teaches.

If you struggle with life, marriage and relationships and are ready to thrive,check out the resources from Certified Professional Coach Bruce Abbott at https://SecureHusband.com.

#deadbedroom #marriage
#sexlessmarriage
#MarriageHelp
#SaveYourMarriage
#SecureHusband
#MarriageAdvice
#RelationshipHealing
#SelfWorth
#InnerChildHealing
#MensMentalHealth
#SelfLoveJourney
#EmotionalHealing
#OvercomeRejection
#HealthyMasculinity
#MarriageCoaching
#StopPeoplePleasing
#SelfGrowth

For informational purposes only. This is not a medical or psychological diagnosis. Consult your physician regarding any necessary mental health diagnosis and treatment options. Always seek professional medical advice before starting any new treatment or therapy. Any and all information by or on this site is provided for promotional or informational purposes only and is not to be relied upon as a professional medical opinion whatsoever. This includes all digital content, including but not exhaustive of, email, blog, podcasts, events, any and all social media (inclusive of: Facebook, YouTube, TikTok and Instagram), webinars and other content whether or not they are available for purchase, as resources or education and information only. All content mentioned does not constitute professional legal or medical advice and is not guaranteed to be accurate, complete, reliable, current or error-free. By using this site, you accept and agree that following any information or recommendations provided therein and all digital content channels is at your own risk.