Your wife shuts down when you open up.
She pulls away when things get close.
You feel like you’re always chasing her attention.

And now you’re asking:
“Is this what love is supposed to feel like?”

In this episode of The Secure Husband Podcast, we explain why emotionally secure men stop chasing women who are avoidant and unavailable — and what to do if you're stuck in that cycle.

You’ll learn:
✅ What avoidant attachment looks like in marriage
✅ Why insecure men feel drawn to distant women
✅ How to stop chasing emotional crumbs
✅ What secure men expect from their wives
✅ Why emotional numbness is not strength
✅ How to lead with boundaries, not begging

Here’s what we cover step-by-step:

Spot the signs of avoidant attachment

Notice how you’re chasing emotional distance

Stop mistaking emotional shutdown for strength

Heal the part of you that feels addicted to earning love

Understand why secure men walk away from these patterns

Build a life where connection is mutual and safe

This video is for you if:
✔️ Your wife avoids hard conversations
✔️ You feel like the problem — no matter how hard you try
✔️ You give your all, but get little back
✔️ You want peace, clarity, and emotional connection

The truth is simple:
Secure men don’t stay in relationships where they feel unseen, unheard, and unloved.
They don’t chase.
They don’t beg.
They lead — with calm, truth, and peace.

If you struggle with life, marriage and relationships and are ready to thrive,check out the resources from Certified Professional Coach Bruce Abbott at https://SecureHusband.com.

#deadbedroom #marriage
#sexlessmarriage
#MarriageHelp
#SaveYourMarriage
#SecureHusband
#MarriageAdvice
#RelationshipHealing
#SelfWorth
#InnerChildHealing
#MensMentalHealth
#SelfLoveJourney
#EmotionalHealing
#OvercomeRejection
#HealthyMasculinity
#MarriageCoaching
#StopPeoplePleasing
#SelfGrowth

For informational purposes only. This is not a medical or psychological diagnosis. Consult your physician regarding any necessary mental health diagnosis and treatment options. Always seek professional medical advice before starting any new treatment or therapy. Any and all information by or on this site is provided for promotional or informational purposes only and is not to be relied upon as a professional medical opinion whatsoever. This includes all digital content, including but not exhaustive of, email, blog, podcasts, events, any and all social media (inclusive of: Facebook, YouTube, TikTok and Instagram), webinars and other content whether or not they are available for purchase, as resources or education and information only. All content mentioned does not constitute professional legal or medical advice and is not guaranteed to be accurate, complete, reliable, current or error-free. By using this site, you accept and agree that following any information or recommendations provided therein and all digital content channels is at your own risk.

You think your wife doesn’t want you anymore.
She never starts sex.
She’s not like she used to be.

So you feel rejected, confused, and hurt.

But what if there’s nothing wrong with her — or you?
What if she simply experiences desire differently?

In this episode of The Secure Husband Podcast, we explain the difference between spontaneous desire and responsive desire. Most men feel desire first. Most women feel desire after connection, safety, or emotional closeness.

You’ll learn:
✅ The two types of sexual desire and how they work
✅ Why your wife may not initiate but still loves you
✅ How to stop making her differences feel personal
✅ What she actually needs to feel close and connected
✅ How to build an emotional space where her desire grows

What we talk about:

Spontaneous vs. responsive desire (what they mean)

Why your wife’s desire changed after marriage

How pressure, guilt, or hinting shuts her down

Why emotional safety matters more than sex for her

What leadership looks like when her desire is slower

This episode is for husbands who:
✔️ Feel unwanted when she doesn’t start sex
✔️ Miss the closeness they once had
✔️ Think she’s broken or lost interest
✔️ Want real connection without begging or pressuring

Here’s the truth:
She’s not broken.
You’re not unwanted.
You just need a new way to lead.

This episode will help you stop reacting from pain and start building a calm, safe space where real connection — and responsive desire — can grow again.

That’s what The Secure Husband Process teaches.

If you struggle with life, marriage and relationships and are ready to thrive,check out the resources from Certified Professional Coach Bruce Abbott at https://SecureHusband.com.

#deadbedroom #marriage
#sexlessmarriage
#MarriageHelp
#SaveYourMarriage
#SecureHusband
#MarriageAdvice
#RelationshipHealing
#SelfWorth
#InnerChildHealing
#MensMentalHealth
#SelfLoveJourney
#EmotionalHealing
#OvercomeRejection
#HealthyMasculinity
#MarriageCoaching
#StopPeoplePleasing
#SelfGrowth

For informational purposes only. This is not a medical or psychological diagnosis. Consult your physician regarding any necessary mental health diagnosis and treatment options. Always seek professional medical advice before starting any new treatment or therapy. Any and all information by or on this site is provided for promotional or informational purposes only and is not to be relied upon as a professional medical opinion whatsoever. This includes all digital content, including but not exhaustive of, email, blog, podcasts, events, any and all social media (inclusive of: Facebook, YouTube, TikTok and Instagram), webinars and other content whether or not they are available for purchase, as resources or education and information only. All content mentioned does not constitute professional legal or medical advice and is not guaranteed to be accurate, complete, reliable, current or error-free. By using this site, you accept and agree that following any information or recommendations provided therein and all digital content channels is at your own risk.

Have you ever said, “Maybe we should open the marriage,” hoping to make your wife feel guilty?

Or maybe you’ve said, “I guess I’ll just find someone else who wants me.”

If so, this video is for you.

These comments don’t build connection. They break trust.

In this episode of The Secure Husband Podcast, we explain why these threats always backfire — and what to do instead.

You’ll learn:
✅ Why most men don’t actually want an open marriage
✅ What’s really behind these threats
✅ How to stop leading with guilt or pressure
✅ What your wife hears when you make these comments
✅ How to stay strong without using fear or shame

Here’s what we cover:

Why suggesting an open marriage is not power — it’s pain

How it makes your wife feel unsafe, not closer

What’s going on under your anger, jokes, or passive threats

Why trust falls apart when you try to shock her into change

How to lead with calm truth instead of control

This video is for men who:
✔️ Feel rejected or unwanted in their marriage
✔️ Have said things out of pain they now regret
✔️ Want to rebuild trust and real intimacy
✔️ Are ready to stop reacting and start leading

You don’t need to guilt your wife into wanting you.
You don’t need to bluff about something that would destroy you.

You need strength.
You need truth.
You need to lead without fear.

That’s what The Secure Husband Process is all about.

If you struggle with life, marriage and relationships and are ready to thrive,check out the resources from Certified Professional Coach Bruce Abbott at https://SecureHusband.com.

#deadbedroom #marriage
#sexlessmarriage
#MarriageHelp
#SaveYourMarriage
#SecureHusband
#MarriageAdvice
#RelationshipHealing
#SelfWorth
#InnerChildHealing
#MensMentalHealth
#SelfLoveJourney
#EmotionalHealing
#OvercomeRejection
#HealthyMasculinity
#MarriageCoaching
#StopPeoplePleasing
#SelfGrowth

For informational purposes only. This is not a medical or psychological diagnosis. Consult your physician regarding any necessary mental health diagnosis and treatment options. Always seek professional medical advice before starting any new treatment or therapy. Any and all information by or on this site is provided for promotional or informational purposes only and is not to be relied upon as a professional medical opinion whatsoever. This includes all digital content, including but not exhaustive of, email, blog, podcasts, events, any and all social media (inclusive of: Facebook, YouTube, TikTok and Instagram), webinars and other content whether or not they are available for purchase, as resources or education and information only. All content mentioned does not constitute professional legal or medical advice and is not guaranteed to be accurate, complete, reliable, current or error-free. By using this site, you accept and agree that following any information or recommendations provided therein and all digital content channels is at your own risk.

You finally have sex with your wife… but she’s quiet. Still. Emotionally checked out.

You wonder:
“Does she even want me?”
“Is this pity sex?”
“Why does this feel worse than no sex at all?”

In this episode of The Secure Husband Podcast, we talk about what to do in that exact moment — when sex feels disconnected, and your mind starts to spiral.

You’ll learn:
✅ Why this hurts more than you expect
✅ What triggers the shame, anger, or sadness
✅ How to stop letting this moment define your worth
✅ How to stay calm and lead with strength
✅ When and how to talk about it later — the right way

Here’s what we cover:

Why this feels personal even if it’s not

How to notice the emotional spike without reacting

How to meet the younger part of you that feels rejected

What it means to stay present without performing

Why your calm leadership shifts everything — over time

This episode is for men who:
✔️ Feel confused or ashamed after “starfish” sex
✔️ Don’t want to guilt or pressure their wives
✔️ Want to feel strong and clear — even in hard moments
✔️ Are tired of building their worth on her response

You are not broken.
She is not your enemy.
And this moment doesn’t define your future.

You don’t have to collapse.
You can stay calm, grounded, and strong — even when connection feels out of reach.

That’s what The Secure Husband Process is all about.

If you struggle with life, marriage and relationships and are ready to thrive,check out the resources from Certified Professional Coach Bruce Abbott at https://SecureHusband.com.

#deadbedroom #marriage
#sexlessmarriage
#MarriageHelp
#SaveYourMarriage
#SecureHusband
#MarriageAdvice
#RelationshipHealing
#SelfWorth
#InnerChildHealing
#MensMentalHealth
#SelfLoveJourney
#EmotionalHealing
#OvercomeRejection
#HealthyMasculinity
#MarriageCoaching
#StopPeoplePleasing
#SelfGrowth

For informational purposes only. This is not a medical or psychological diagnosis. Consult your physician regarding any necessary mental health diagnosis and treatment options. Always seek professional medical advice before starting any new treatment or therapy. Any and all information by or on this site is provided for promotional or informational purposes only and is not to be relied upon as a professional medical opinion whatsoever. This includes all digital content, including but not exhaustive of, email, blog, podcasts, events, any and all social media (inclusive of: Facebook, YouTube, TikTok and Instagram), webinars and other content whether or not they are available for purchase, as resources or education and information only. All content mentioned does not constitute professional legal or medical advice and is not guaranteed to be accurate, complete, reliable, current or error-free. By using this site, you accept and agree that following any information or recommendations provided therein and all digital content channels is at your own risk.

Do you keep escaping into porn, fantasy, or daydreams about someone else when your marriage feels distant or disconnected?

You’re not alone.

But those escapes — while they feel good for a moment — are quietly making things worse.

In this episode of The Secure Husband Podcast, we’ll show you how to stop numbing your pain and start healing your marriage, your mind, and your manhood.

In this video, you’ll learn:
✅ Why porn and fantasy are signs of deeper pain
✅ What you’re really trying to avoid
✅ How escaping kills real intimacy
✅ How to stop feeling ashamed and start feeling strong
✅ The step-by-step process to build a real life you actually want

You’ll also discover:

How to stop using fantasy to feel seen and wanted

How to meet the part of you that feels unworthy of love

Why your brain is craving control and comfort

How to create connection without pressure

What it means to show up whole — even when she feels distant

This video is for men who:
✔️ Struggle with porn, fantasy, or emotional escapes
✔️ Feel rejected, unwanted, or emotionally alone in their marriage
✔️ Want to lead themselves with clarity, strength, and truth
✔️ Are ready to stop escaping and start rebuilding real love

You don’t need to feel ashamed.
You don’t need to keep hiding.
And you don’t need fantasy to feel like a man.

You need to feel, heal, and lead from strength.

That’s what The Secure Husband Process is all about.

If you struggle with life, marriage and relationships and are ready to thrive,check out the resources from Certified Professional Coach Bruce Abbott at https://SecureHusband.com.

#deadbedroom #marriage
#sexlessmarriage
#MarriageHelp
#SaveYourMarriage
#SecureHusband
#MarriageAdvice
#RelationshipHealing
#SelfWorth
#InnerChildHealing
#MensMentalHealth
#SelfLoveJourney
#EmotionalHealing
#OvercomeRejection
#HealthyMasculinity
#MarriageCoaching
#StopPeoplePleasing
#SelfGrowth

For informational purposes only. This is not a medical or psychological diagnosis. Consult your physician regarding any necessary mental health diagnosis and treatment options. Always seek professional medical advice before starting any new treatment or therapy. Any and all information by or on this site is provided for promotional or informational purposes only and is not to be relied upon as a professional medical opinion whatsoever. This includes all digital content, including but not exhaustive of, email, blog, podcasts, events, any and all social media (inclusive of: Facebook, YouTube, TikTok and Instagram), webinars and other content whether or not they are available for purchase, as resources or education and information only. All content mentioned does not constitute professional legal or medical advice and is not guaranteed to be accurate, complete, reliable, current or error-free. By using this site, you accept and agree that following any information or recommendations provided therein and all digital content channels is at your own risk.

Do you feel jealous when your wife smiles at another man?
Or when she laughs at her phone and it’s not a text from you?
Does your mind go to:
“Is she pulling away?”
“Is there someone else?”
“Am I being replaced?”

You’re not crazy.
You’re not weak.
But you may be reacting from insecurity — not truth.

In this episode of The Secure Husband Podcast, we talk about what jealousy really is, how to know if it’s real or just fear, and what to do about it.

What you’ll learn in this video:
✅ What jealousy actually means
✅ The difference between instinct and insecurity
✅ Why some men feel replaceable in marriage
✅ How to slow down and respond with calm, not panic
✅ How to build trust in yourself and your marriage

We’ll cover:

How to spot unhealed wounds under your jealousy

Why your reaction may come from fear, not fact

How to meet the part of you that feels “not enough”

How to talk to your wife without blame or control

What it means to lead from emotional strength

This video is for men who:
✔️ Struggle with jealousy but don’t want to be controlling
✔️ Feel anxious when their wife seems distant
✔️ Want to build trust without being needy
✔️ Are tired of spiraling every time they feel insecure

You don’t have to act from fear anymore.
You can respond with clarity and calm.
You can lead with strength — not control.

That’s what The Secure Husband Process is all about.

If you struggle with life, marriage and relationships and are ready to thrive,check out the resources from Certified Professional Coach Bruce Abbott at https://SecureHusband.com.

#deadbedroom #marriage
#sexlessmarriage
#MarriageHelp
#SaveYourMarriage
#SecureHusband
#MarriageAdvice
#RelationshipHealing
#SelfWorth
#InnerChildHealing
#MensMentalHealth
#SelfLoveJourney
#EmotionalHealing
#OvercomeRejection
#HealthyMasculinity
#MarriageCoaching
#StopPeoplePleasing
#SelfGrowth

For informational purposes only. This is not a medical or psychological diagnosis. Consult your physician regarding any necessary mental health diagnosis and treatment options. Always seek professional medical advice before starting any new treatment or therapy. Any and all information by or on this site is provided for promotional or informational purposes only and is not to be relied upon as a professional medical opinion whatsoever. This includes all digital content, including but not exhaustive of, email, blog, podcasts, events, any and all social media (inclusive of: Facebook, YouTube, TikTok and Instagram), webinars and other content whether or not they are available for purchase, as resources or education and information only. All content mentioned does not constitute professional legal or medical advice and is not guaranteed to be accurate, complete, reliable, current or error-free. By using this site, you accept and agree that following any information or recommendations provided therein and all digital content channels is at your own risk.

You want sex. She doesn’t.
You feel confused, rejected, and maybe even ashamed.

You wonder:
“Why doesn’t she want me like I want her?”
“Is something wrong with me… or her?”

In this episode of The Secure Husband Podcast, we explain what’s really going on when your wife isn’t as interested in sex — and why it doesn’t mean she’s broken or you’re not enough.

Here’s what you’ll learn in this episode:
✅ Why men and women experience sex differently
✅ How stress and hormones affect your wife’s desire
✅ Why taking it personally makes things worse
✅ How to stop letting sex define your worth
✅ How to lead with emotional strength, not pressure

This episode breaks down:

The biology behind different sex drives

How unmet needs trigger old wounds

Why your reaction can block connection

What you can influence (and what you can’t)

How to become a man who is desirable for who he is — not what he gets

You don’t need to chase sex to feel loved.
You need to show up strong, grounded, and calm — even when she’s distant.

That’s what creates safety.
That’s what invites real intimacy.

If you struggle with life, marriage and relationships and are ready to thrive,check out the resources from Certified Professional Coach Bruce Abbott at https://SecureHusband.com.

#deadbedroom #marriage
#sexlessmarriage
#MarriageHelp
#SaveYourMarriage
#SecureHusband
#MarriageAdvice
#RelationshipHealing
#SelfWorth
#InnerChildHealing
#MensMentalHealth
#SelfLoveJourney
#EmotionalHealing
#OvercomeRejection
#HealthyMasculinity
#MarriageCoaching
#StopPeoplePleasing
#SelfGrowth

For informational purposes only. This is not a medical or psychological diagnosis. Consult your physician regarding any necessary mental health diagnosis and treatment options. Always seek professional medical advice before starting any new treatment or therapy. Any and all information by or on this site is provided for promotional or informational purposes only and is not to be relied upon as a professional medical opinion whatsoever. This includes all digital content, including but not exhaustive of, email, blog, podcasts, events, any and all social media (inclusive of: Facebook, YouTube, TikTok and Instagram), webinars and other content whether or not they are available for purchase, as resources or education and information only. All content mentioned does not constitute professional legal or medical advice and is not guaranteed to be accurate, complete, reliable, current or error-free. By using this site, you accept and agree that following any information or recommendations provided therein and all digital content channels is at your own risk.