My guest today is Christopher K Wallace, he's a men’s counsellor, author, father & husband. Chris and I dig into a vast array of topics including:

Chris’ colourful background including dealing drugs, being shot in the chest with a crossbow & conceiving his son in prison

The moral & scientific arguments around chatting up a woman after she’s had a drink

How to tap into your inner essence & become aware of your value to the world

Why drinking alcohol is in addiction to fear

*How alcohol degrades your confidence & how to cultivate it intrinsically

How and why you should trace emotional responses in the body back to childhood

Chris’ rehab and ultimate journey to becoming an addiction therapist

His mission of fighting societal male weakness

What ‘Masculine Destiny’ means

Why strengths can be perceived weaknesses

The nervous system & the process of affect

How to become aware of the predictive brain & override your autopilot

How desire & fear interact and the riddle of addiction

The Nature vs nurture argument as it relates to attachment

Insights from Chris’ book, Sipping Fear Pissing Confidence

Why addiction to a behaviour never leaves you

How to replace Wanting with Winning

The illusion of Free Will & solution of Free Won’t

AND

Chris’ message to the world's male population

Chapters

00:00:00 Introduction to Christopher K Wallace

00:01:31 Chris’ early years of drug dealing, being shot in the chest with a crossbow & conceiving his son in prison

00:19:31 The Nature vs nurture argument as it relates to attachment

00:22:53 Chris’ rehab and ultimate journey to becoming an addiction therapist

00:29:13 Chris’ mission of fighting societal male weakness

00:30:13 What Chris’ term ‘Masculine Destiny’ means

00:46:07 How to tap into our inner essence

00:51:11 How to understand your value to the world

00:53:28 Why strengths can be perceived weaknesses

00:57:31 The nervous system & affect

00:59:53 How to become aware of the predictive brain

01:05:00 How to override your autopilot system

01:07:41 How and why you should trace emotional responses in the body back to childhood

01:18:13 How desire & fear interact and the riddle of addiction

01:20:11 Why drinking alcohol is an addiction to fear

01:32:45 How alcohol degrades your confidence & how to cultivate intrinsic confidence

01:36:18 Insights from Chris’ book, Sipping Fear Pissing Confidence

01:38:39 The moral & scientific arguments around chatting up a woman when she’s had a drink

01:44:52 Why addiction to a certain behaviour never leaves your nervous system

01:49:14 How to replace Wanting with Winning “how do we replace wanting with winning?”

01:51:13 The illusion of Free Will & solution of Free Won’t

01:56:44 Chris’ coaching programs & contact information

01:55:22 Chris’ text message to the world's male population

***LINKS***

Chris’ Website: https://bit.ly/4falWCO

Listen to ‘Sipping Fear Pissing Confidence’ on Audible: https://adbl.co/3YpP2XS

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#masculinedestiny #maleweakness #addiction

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My guest today is Paul Nadeau, he’s a former hostage negotiator, keynote & TEDx speaker, multi-author and script writer, actor & life coach.

Paul and I delve into a wide array of topics including:

How to know if we’re being lied to

Paul’s acting and script writing career

How to negotiate with a hostage

How to Translate hostage negotiation skills into other domains of life

How to Negotiate & become a more effective salesperson & communicator

Paul’s time as a peacekeeper in the middle east and How his life was saved by a terrorist in Iraq

AND

How to ask for - and get - what you want

Please enjoy my conversation with Paul Nadeau.

Chapters

00:00:00 Introduction to Paul Nadeau

00:01:23 Paul’s Story & Background

00:11:43 Hostage Negotiation

00:14:14 How To Negotiate With Someone Who Wants To Take Their Own Life

00:20:13 Is Hostage Negotiation An Act?

00:24:00 How to Negotiate & become a more effective salesperson & communicator

00:38:24 The S -A -L -E -S acronym

00:48:57 Paul’s Three Powerful Lessons

00:51:50 Paul’s time as a peacekeeper in the middle east and How his life was saved by a terrorist in Iraq

01:16:23 How do we know if someone's lying to us?

01:24:00 Paul’s Books & How To Ask For What You Want

01:39:38 Audience Questions

01:47:34 Future Plans

***LINKS***

Paul’s Website: https://bit.ly/3NDxwu9

Paul’s Instagram: https://bit.ly/4dVTseF

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#HostageNegotiation #Negotiation #SelfHelp

#podcast #awakenoutofcontext

My guest today is Charlie Botterill, he's a Hyrox world record holder and ambassador, pure sport and My protein athlete and a budding entrepreneur (all at the age of 23).

Charlie and I delve into a wide array of topics, including:

Charlie's remarkable first full season and how he set the UK Hyrox world record.

His Sports background Including Football and professional cycling.

We discuss The influence of trauma on athletic performance.

Charlie's role as a Hyrox Ambassador.

If he would ever be tempted to take performance enhancing drugs.

Charlie's past struggles with an eating disorder.

His previously Untold Off-Season training secrets.

The moral implications of performance enhancement.

Charlie's thoughts on body image and the likeliness of PED’s in Hyrox.

His unique approach to Self-Improvement.

Charlie's list of 10 things he's going to do before 30.

And

The book that HE'S writing and A few of the useful tools and concepts from it

Charlie is a fascinating individual, I thoroughly enjoyed our conversation and I am looking forward to seeing his progress over the next few years, I do think he's going to go very far.

Please enjoy and be inspired by my conversation with Charlie Botterill.

Chapters

00:00:00 Introduction

00:01:30 Charlie’s First Full Season In Hyrox

00:14:45 His Sports background

00:20:00 University Dissertation

00:23:50 Charlie's role as a Hyrox Ambassador

00:25:30 Past struggles with an eating disorder

00:34:00 Mental Health

00:38:20 Eating Disorder, Anorexia & Pro Cycling

00:44:00 Motivation, Mindset & The influence of trauma on athletic performance

00:50:00 Body image in and the likeliness of PED’s in Hyrox

00:58:50 If he would ever be tempted to take performance enhancing drugs

01:01:00 The moral implications of performance enhancement

01:03:00 His previously Untold Off-Season training secrets

01:13:00 The book that HE'S writing and A few of the useful tools and concepts from it

01:21:00 Charlie's list of 10 things he's going to do before 30

#hyroxtraining #charliebotterill #highperformers

#podcast #awakenoutofcontext

***LINKS***

Charlie’s Instagram:

https://bit.ly/48b8ZGl

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My guest today is Christopher Hurst, he's an artist and tattooist. A British bipolar ex soldier now exploring polyamory, masculinity and mental health.

Chris and I chat about a wide range of topics from our life's experiences including:

The continuous battle of remember to have fun in life

Our differing opinions on Winston Churchill

Why dance is an important part in finding joy

Our past experiences with binge drinking

The education system and its impact on identity

Why I believe I’m an introvert

The prevalence of social masks & constructed identities

Chris’ time in the British Army

The effect of being in the military on your social status

What Polyamory is

AND

Why a polyamorous relationship might be right for you

During this conversation you may hear a reference to ‘Nadja’, this is friend of the show Nadja Lasbeck who we are mutually acquainted with. If you haven't listened to that episode yet, you should do so after this one.

I hope you enjoy my conversation with Christopher Hurst.

***LINKS***

Chris’ Instagram

https://bit.ly/487E39T

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#polyamory #masking #alcohol

#podcast #awakenoutofcontext

Do you find yourself feeling like you were meant for more but just don't know the steps required to get you there. Well, my guest today, delivers speeches around the glove on precisely what you need to do, and how you can create what he calls a dominator's identity.

He's a former NFL athlete. Entrepreneur. Keynote speaker. Coach, and an author. Anthony, I delve into a wide array of topics including:

How to make progress in every area of your life

What ‘Dark Work’ is and how not doing it might be holding you back

Anthony's productivity system and how to fill and stick to your calendar.

How to shift your identity to be the person you've always wanted to be.

How and why you should carry out ‘Triad Talks’.

If you should prepare yourself for an identity shift outside of your control.

And

How to acknowledge your ego without becoming attached to it.

Chapters

00:00:00 Introduction

00:01:35 Anthony’s Key Life Moment

00:03:38 The Concept of Dark Work

00:03:46 Building a Dominator’s Identity

00:05:25 The Power of Personal Ownership

00:07:17 The Phases of Dark Work

00:18:33 Roots and Fruits System

00:22:22 The Importance of Being Present

00:24:36 Structuring Your Calendar for Success

00:36:57 How to Stick to the Calendar

00:41:54 The Role of Identity in Success

00:55:29 Preparing for Major Life Transitions

00:57:54 Rebuilding After a Career Change

01:01:56 Final Thoughts and Closing Remarks

***LINKS***

Anthony’s Website

https://bit.ly/4dxHjfG

darkwork.com

https://bit.ly/4dA5cmS

Anthony's Instagram

https://bit.ly/3ZPCYkZ

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Hashtags

#anthonytrucks #goalsetting #selfhelp

#podcast #awakenoutofcontext

Our Instagram feeds are filled with the top percentile of athletes, models and fitness gurus. This constant bombardment can lead some down the dark path of disordered eating and unnecessary self-flagellation. That being said, there is a healthy balance we need to strike that pushes us to eat healthier and is grounded in true self-confidence. My guest today is Marcus from Strong Not Starving he's a body image and stress management coach with a background in fitness and disordered eating. Marcus and I delve into a wide array of topics including:

If Commenting On Someone Elses Body is ever OK?

Marcus' Journey with Body Image and Fitness

The Impact of Body Composition Tests

Internal vs. External Validation

The Impact of Compliments on Individuals with Body Image Issues

The Importance Down-Regulating Emotions

Managing Intrusive Thoughts, OCD and Catastrophizing

Marcus's - & my - Experience as a Musician

The Challenges of Touring and Managing Stage Fright

Managing Ego in the Music Industry

AND

Overcoming Binge Eating through Emotional Regulation

I hope you enjoy my conversation WITH Marcus.

Chapters

Timestamp Chapter Name

00:00:00 Introduction to Body Image and Nutrition Struggles

00:01:22 Marcus' Journey with Body Image and Fitness

00:02:24 Competitive Sports and Body Image Pressure

00:03:52 The Role of Rowing in Body Composition Challenges

00:05:46 Obsessive Compulsive Behavior and Eating Disorders

00:07:00 Dietary Restriction and Body Composition Goals

00:10:01 Fitness Models vs. Athletes: Unrealistic Expectations

00:13:06 Transition to Performance-Based Fitness

00:16:09 Struggles with Body Fat and Diet Balance

00:17:27 Managing Body Image Pressure in the Fitness Space

00:19:16 Validation: Internal vs. External in Body Confidence

00:23:18 Accepting Compliments: The Psychological Impact

00:26:46 Resilience and Responding to Comments About Body Image

00:31:19 Letting Go of Harmful Fitness Expectations

00:33:07 Overtraining and the Importance of Recovery

00:37:50 The Skill of Regulating Emotions and Performance

00:44:03 Tools for Down-Regulating for OCD

00:47:02 Life as a Musician and Managing Stage Fright

00:56:17 Sober Touring and the Challenges of Professional Music

01:12:00 Emotional Challenges of Leaving a Band

01:24:21 Starting Over: From Touring to Fitness Coaching

01:25:02 Launching a Podcast on Body Image and Mental Health

01:32:30 Marcus' Coaching Practice for Eating Disorders

01:37:30 Marcus' Advice To Me As a Podcaster

01:43:10 Marcus' Future Plans

***LINKS***

Marcus’ Website

https://bit.ly/4enyXsj

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Keywords

music, fitness, body image, eating disorders, touring, validation, social media, mental health, emotional management, identity, identity, self-worth, body image, compliments, emotional regulation, binge eating, self-discovery, authenticity, podcasting, coaching

Hashtags

#eatingdisorders #mentalhealth #bodyimage

#podcast #awakenoutofcontext

What if the very challenge you face is what’s showing you the way to your best self? True resilience is the art of using the adversity you face as your guiding light, even in the face of a life-altering injury like losing a limb, how you rise to the challenge of turning hardship into opportunity will ultimately define you. My guest today is Ricky Banner. He's a British army veteran turned Hyrox athlete who lost his leg while serving in Afghanistan. He also works with young people in behaviour and safeguarding and is the founder of Discomfort Zone. Ricky and I delve into a wide array of topics, including: How he lost his leg in Afghanistan Ricky's first season in Hyrox Ricky’s First Impression Of Me At Hyrox Manchester The Decision To Amputate Balancing Masculinity & Vulnerability As A Father/Grandfather What Ricky's training looks like Advice for new amputees What exactly is the Discomfort Zone? Ricky's work with men and mental health How he used his amputation as an opportunity What Are The 'Five Ways To Wellbeing' AND The importance of Emotional Resilience and physical challenge I hope you enjoy my conversation with Ricky Banner. Chapters 00:00:00 Ricky’s Off-Season Training and Preparation 00:06:51 Highlights from Last Hyrox Season 00:15:15 Ricky’s First Impression Of Me At Hyrox Manchester (Wim Hof Breathing) 00:24:00 Goal Setting & Mental Health Journey 00:34:20 Wounded In Afghanistan 00:40:00 The Decision To Amputate + Internal Experience 00:44:00 Why Ricky Wouldn’t Change A Thing 00:49:21 Discomfort Zone Retreats and Men’s Mental Health 01:05:00 The Five Ways To Wellbeing 01:10:00 The Importance Of Being Present 01:11:30 Running Topless 01:17:00 Balancing Masculinity & Vulnerability As A Father/Grandfather 01:30:15 Using His Disability As A Platform 01:31:48 Advice For New Amputees 01:35:50 Final Thoughts & Where To Find Ricky ***LINKS*** Ricky’s Instagram https://bit.ly/3zupv7y Discomfort Zone https://bit.ly/4de0A5R MY STUFF: Awaken Out Of Context Podcast (YouTube & Podcast Links): https://bit.ly/3tk8FVv Follow Me On Instagram (@awakenoutofjason): https://bit.ly/3RAkKQj Keywords resilience, mental health, amputee, Hyrox, adversity, training, masculinity, discomfort zone, personal growth, veterans Hashtags #hyrox #amputee #veteran #podcast #awakenoutofcontext

Most men will admit they don't fully understand women, and for those struggling to find a partner, this lack of understanding often leads to behaviours like seeking validation, second-guessing, and people-pleasing. Today's guest would attribute these symptoms to 'Nice Guy Syndrome'. If this sounds like you, or somebody you care about I'd recommend sticking around for today's episode.

My guest today is Dr Robert Glover, he's the author of the bestselling book 'No More Mr Nice Guy', which has sold over one-million copies worldwide. He's also a licensed therapist, coach, speaker & educator. Robert and I dig into a range of topics including:

How to diagnose a nice guy

How being a nice guy affects relationships

How to recover from "Nice Guy Syndrome" and establish healthy boundaries.

Why trying to please women often backfires for men.

The differences between stated and revealed sexual turn-ons

How masculinity and femininity influence relationship dynamics.

Why women are often drawn to "bad boys" over "nice guys."

How to understand women better

Why modern dating can be challenging due to evolving gender roles.

Why having children isn’t necessarily the be-all and end-all

Please note that Dr Robert’s audience is primarily straight men such as myself and you may not agree with everything he has to say, but I encourage you to keep an open mind and take from it what you can.

I hope you enjoy the conversation.

Keywords

Nice Guy Syndrome, relationships, masculinity, femininity, modern dating, emotional intelligence, self-improvement, parenting, dating advice, personal growth

Hashtags

#nomoremrniceguy #drrobertglover #datingadviceformen

#podcast #awakenoutofcontext

***LINKS***

Dr Glover’s Website

https://bit.ly/4grGOGM

Integration Nation - Dr Glover’s Men’s Coaching

https://bit.ly/4eqEWwl

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