In this episode, EG opens up about the loneliness of surviving; how trauma doesn’t just take something from you, it leaves you with the aftershocks long after. She talks about the story of Kayla Malec and dives deep into the different kinds of loneliness survivors face: the grief for the person you were before, the disconnect from the world around you, and the complicated feelings toward the version of you that did what she had to do to survive.

It’s not clean. It’s not linear. But you’re not alone in it.

Trigger Warning: This podcast discusses sexual violence. See the episode description for more information. Please take care of yourself when listening.

Lux Resources is a North Carolina-based 501(c)3 nonprofit that supports survivors of sexual violence through providing legal resources. Survivors can access resources and legal aid for free on our website, www.luxresources.org.

Follow Lux on Instagram and TikTok @luxresources for behind-the-scenes content, episode updates, and more tips on supporting survivors and allies.

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In this episode, EG dives into the worst questions survivors get asked, and why so many of them miss the mark. From the straight-up harmful to the shockingly common, she unpacks the assumptions behind questions like “What were you wearing?” and “Are you sure that’s what happened?” and talks about how curiosity, concern, or even good intentions can still cause harm when we’re not being mindful.

She shares her own experiences, reflections from listeners, and a few actually helpful things you can say instead. Whether you're a survivor who’s felt dismissed or an ally who wants to do better, this episode is both a call-in and a call-out.

If you've ever been on the receiving end of a “but why didn’t you fight back?” or wondered what not to say to someone who’s been through trauma, this one’s for you.

Trigger Warning: This podcast discusses sexual violence. See the episode description for more information. Please take care of yourself when listening.

Lux Resources is a North Carolina-based 501(c)3 nonprofit that supports survivors of sexual violence through providing legal resources. Survivors can access resources and legal aid for free on our website, www.luxresources.org.

Follow Lux on Instagram and TikTok @luxresources for behind-the-scenes content, episode updates, and more tips on supporting survivors and allies.

Want to get in touch? Ideas for resources to add to the website? Podcast content suggestions? Reach out to us: https://www.luxresources.org/contact

In this episode, EG talks about forgiveness after trauma—specifically after sexual violence—and all the pressure that can come with it. There’s this idea that forgiving the person who hurt you is the key to healing, but she doesn’t think it’s that simple.

She shares some of her own story and thoughts on what forgiveness has (and hasn’t) looked like for her and why she thinks we need to give survivors more space to figure that out for themselves. If you’ve ever felt like you should forgive but didn’t want to—or weren’t ready—this episode is for you.

Trigger Warning: This podcast discusses sexual violence. See the episode description for more information. Please take care of yourself when listening.

Lux Resources is a North Carolina-based 501(c)3 nonprofit that supports survivors of sexual violence through providing legal resources. Survivors can access resources and legal aid for free on our website, www.luxresources.org.

Follow Lux on Instagram and TikTok @luxresources for behind-the-scenes content, episode updates, and more tips on supporting survivors and allies.

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In this episode, EG sits down with Molly Booker for an open and powerful conversation about hypersexuality after assault, the deep impact of guilt and shame on survivors, and the power of reclaiming the word “no.” Molly shares her personal journey, offering insights into the healing process, the complexity of survivor experiences, and the lessons she’s learned along the way.

They also dive into her book, Magic in the Mess, exploring the themes of resilience, self-discovery, and finding meaning in the aftermath of trauma. Whether you’re a survivor, an ally, or someone navigating your journey, this conversation is full of honesty, understanding, and hope.

Plus, we’re doing a book giveaway! Want a chance to win a copy of Magic in the Mess? Here’s how to enter:

📲 Follow us on Instagram & TikTok (@luxresources)

❤️ Like our giveaway post

👯‍♀️ Tag a friend in the comments (1 tag = 1 entry, unlimited entries!)

💬 Comment the code word MESSY on our post for 3 extra entries

The giveaway closes April 13th at 11:59 pm.

Trigger Warning: This podcast discusses sexual violence. See the episode description for more information. Please take care of yourself when listening.

Lux Resources is a North Carolina-based 501(c)3 nonprofit that supports survivors of sexual violence through providing legal resources. Survivors can access resources and legal aid for free on our website, www.luxresources.org.

Follow Lux on Instagram and TikTok @luxresources for behind-the-scenes content, episode updates, and more tips on supporting survivors and allies.

Connect with Molly

www.mollybooker.com

https://substack.com/@mollybooker

https://bsky.app/profile/mollybooker.bsky.social

Want to get in touch? Ideas for resources to add to the website? Podcast content suggestions? Reach out to us: https://www.luxresources.org/contact

Happy Women's History Month! In this episode, EG is diving into what it really means to be a woman: the rules we were taught, the labels we were given, and the impossible expectations we’ve been trying to meet for way too long. From “be likable” to “don’t be too much,” we’re unpacking the unspoken rules that shaped us and throwing them away. She’s breaking down what it means to take up space, to stop shrinking ourselves, and to finally embrace the wild, messy, emotional, powerful parts of who we are. Expect a little anger, a lot of empowerment, and more than one “why did no one teach us this sooner?!” moment.

Trigger Warning: This podcast discusses sexual violence. See the episode description for more information. Please take care of yourself when listening.

Lux Resources is a North Carolina-based 501(c)3 nonprofit that supports survivors of sexual violence through providing legal resources. Survivors can access resources and legal aid for free on our website, www.luxresources.org.

Follow Lux on Instagram and TikTok @luxresources for behind-the-scenes content, episode updates, and more tips on supporting survivors and allies.

Want to get in touch? Ideas for resources to add to the website? Podcast content suggestions? Reach out to us: https://www.luxresources.org/contact

Coping—are we actually dealing with things, or just avoiding them in a way that looks productive? In this episode, EG is breaking down the fine line between coping and crutch—when a habit is actually helping and when it’s just keeping us stuck. She asked a bunch of people how they cope, and the answers? All over the place. Some are out here journaling and setting goals, while others are numbing out with impulse shopping and doom-scrolling. (Relatable.)

But noticing how we cope is just step one. Step two? Letting go of the habits, thoughts, and expectations that are quietly weighing us down. Because we all have these stories we tell ourselves—like ‘I have to have it all together’ or ‘If I slow down, I’m failing’—and half the time, they’re not even true.

So, if you’re in your healing era, questioning your own coping habits, or just here for the introspective deep dive, this one’s for you. Let’s get into it.

Trigger Warning: This podcast discusses sexual violence. See the episode description for more information. Please take care of yourself when listening.

Lux Resources is a North Carolina-based 501(c)3 nonprofit that supports survivors of sexual

violence through providing legal resources. Survivors can access resources and legal aid for free on our website, www.luxresources.org.

Follow Lux on Instagram and TikTok @luxresources for behind-the-scenes content, episode updates, and more tips on supporting survivors and allies.

Want to get in touch? Ideas for resources to add to the website? Podcast content suggestions? Reach out to us: https://www.luxresources.org/contact

In this episode, EG sits down with the incredible Victoria Ellen, author of Painting in the Rain: A True Story of Trickery and Triumph. Her story is raw, powerful, and truly unforgettable—one of resilience, survival, and ultimately, reclaiming her narrative.

Victoria opens up about the events that shaped her memoir, the emotional journey of writing it, and what life looks like for her now. They dive into everything from the mental image behind Painting in the Rain to the deeper meaning of survival—how victims can be victors in their own right.

They also talk about what it means to support survivors, the books and resources that have resonated with her, and the message she hopes listeners take away.

Trigger Warning: This podcast discusses sexual violence. See the episode description for more information. Please take care of yourself when listening.

Lux Resources is a North Carolina-based 501(c)3 nonprofit that supports survivors of sexual violence through providing legal resources. Survivors can access resources and legal aid for free on our website, www.luxresources.org.

Follow Lux on Instagram and TikTok @luxresources for behind-the-scenes content, episode updates, and more tips on supporting survivors and allies.

Resources

The Body Keeps the Score -

It's Not You - Dr. Ramani Durvasula

Community for Complex Trauma Survivors - Instagram: @healing.and.cptsd

Dr. Nicole LePera - Instagran: @the.holistic.psychologist

Stream the docuseries Scam Goddess on Hulu

Painting in the Rain: A True Story of Trickery and Triumph - Victoria Ellen

Connect with Victoria

Victoriaellen.co

LinkedIn & Facebook: Victoria Ellen

TikTok & Instagram: Victoriaellen.co

YouTube: VictoriaEllen17

Want to get in touch? Ideas for resources to add to the website? Podcast content suggestions? Reach out to us: https://www.luxresources.org/contact

Love—it’s complicated. In this episode, EG is diving into all things love: what it should feel like, what it shouldn’t, and why love bombing ruins your self-esteem (oops). She’s breaking down love languages, green flags, red flags, and why “no fighting” isn’t actually the goal in a healthy relationship.

And since February is Teen Dating Violence Awareness Month, she’s wrapping up with an important conversation on recognizing unhealthy patterns, supporting survivors, and what real love looks like. Expect a little chaos and a lot of “why did no one teach us this sooner?!” moments.

Whether you’re healing, dating, or just here for the hot takes, this episode is for you. Let’s jump in.

Trigger Warning: This podcast discusses sexual violence. See the episode description for more information. Please take care of yourself when listening.

Lux Resources is a North Carolina-based 501(c)3 nonprofit that supports survivors of sexual violence through providing legal resources. Survivors can access resources and legal aid for free on our website, www.luxresources.org.

Follow Lux on Instagram and TikTok @luxresources for behind-the-scenes content, episode updates, and more tips on supporting survivors and allies.

Resources

Love Is Respect – Resources on healthy relationships, setting boundaries, and getting support for dating abuse.

One Love Foundation – Education on healthy vs. unhealthy love with workshops and toolkits.

The National Domestic Violence Hotline – 24/7 support for anyone in an abusive relationship (call, chat, or text "LOVEIS" to 22522).

Futures Without Violence – Info on breaking cycles of abuse and promoting healthy relationships.

Set Boundaries, Find Peace – Nedra Glover Tawwab

Attached – Amir Levine & Rachel Heller (understanding attachment styles in relationships)

Want to get in touch? Ideas for resources to add to the website? Podcast content suggestions? Reach out to us: https://www.luxresources.org/contact