What happens when healing from trauma starts to change everything—your identity, your relationships, even your marriage?

In this episode of Mother Mayhem, I read a powerful letter from a daughter who has done the work to heal… and now finds herself in a life that no longer fits.

She’s changed. Her needs have changed. But her marriage hasn’t—and now she’s wondering: What do I do with the life I built before I healed?

This episode reflects on the cost of becoming your true self after narcissistic abuse or emotional neglect—especially when trauma recovery brings clarity, grief, and new truths that are impossible to ignore.

You’ll hear themes around:

• Healing from trauma and mother wounds

• Identity shifts in long-term relationships

• What daughters of narcissistic mothers learn to tolerate

• The difference between repair and real healing

• Why self-trust can feel like betrayal

• How shame keeps us from taking up space in our own lives
  

Whether you’re rethinking your relationship, your career, or your place in the world, this episode will meet you right where you are—and remind you: you’re not alone, and you don’t have to abandon yourself to keep the peace.

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• Also mentioned: Simple Scripts for Saying Hard Things
  

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This week, we tackle a situation you daughters of narcissistic and emotionally limited mothers know all too well: how to respond when your mothers emotionally manipulate and use guilt to control you.

Today, we’re breaking down the difference between guilt and shame—how guilt, in its healthiest form, can help you improve yourselves, while shame distorts your sense of self-worth and keeps you stuck in unhealthy patterns.

Narcissistic and emotionally limited mothers excel at cultivating this shame, making it incredibly difficult for you daughters to set boundaries and honor your own feelings.

This episode explores the trauma responses that daughters of narcissistic mothers often experience—particularly the internalized guilt and shame that cloud judgment, lead to second-guessing, and prevent healing

In This Episode, You’ll Learn:

• The difference between guilt and shame, and how they show up in relationships with narcissistic or emotionally limited mothers.

• Why narcissistic mothers use shame to manipulate their children and how it can impact self-worth.

• Practical steps for recognizing emotional manipulation and setting healthy boundaries.

• The importance of retraining your nervous system to see the difference between healthy boundaries and emotional manipulation.

• How healing isn’t about perfection—it’s about progress and taking care of your emotional needs, one step at a time.

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If you are ready to stop carrying the weight of emotional manipulation and start setting boundaries that honor your peace, come join us in Tuesday Group or Thursday Group . Each week, daughters from all over the world meet in these groups to share, heal, and support each other through their unique journeys.

You can also find healing and connection in Mayhem Daughters, our private online community where women come together to reclaim their voices and find support in navigating life after narcissistic abuse.

Also mentioned: Simple Scripts for Saying Hard Things

Remember, healing is a process, and it’s okay to take it one day at a time. You are seen, you are heard, and most importantly, you are not alone.

In this episode of Mother Mayhem, join me as one daughter walks you through her path toward lower contact with narcissistic parents.

Many of you have reached out asking for advice on how to manage relationships with abusive parents, especially when considering lower or no contact, and in this episode, we dig into the real-life process of making that shift.

It’s not an easy decision, and it’s certainly not something that happens overnight. Trauma brain, emotional conditioning, and the weight of years of dysfunctional family dynamics can make it feel impossible. But her journey proves that taking it one day at a time is not only possible, it’s how we start to reclaim our emotional safety and peace.

In this episode, you’ll hear:

• The steps to take it one day at a time when considering lower contact with narcissistic or emotionally limited parents

• How to trust your nervous system in making decisions that prioritize your well-being

• Real talk about the difficult emotions that come with setting boundaries with toxic parents

• A daughter’s personal story of healing and choosing herself despite the pain of family rejection
  

Whether you’re considering going lower contact, have already made that decision, or are simply exploring what that might look like, this episode is for you.

Setting boundaries with toxic parents is never easy, but our daughter’s story will remind you that you are not alone, and that taking small steps toward healing and self-protection can make all the difference.

Healing from narcissistic abuse takes time, effort, and the courage to trust yourself and your decisions. You have the right to protect your peace, and you have the right to choose what’s best for you—no matter how difficult it may feel in the moment.

Resources mentioned in the episode:

• Mayhem Daughters - Join our community for ongoing support and guidance as you navigate your healing journey.

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  Simple Scripts for Saying Hard Things

In this episode of Mother Mayhem, we dive deep into the emotional triggers that often surface during trauma recovery—specifically anger, jealousy, and rejection.

As daughters of narcissistic and emotionally limited mothers, these emotions can feel overwhelming, but they’re not just random feelings—they are powerful tools that can guide your healing process.

We talk about why anger is not only valid but crucial in the recovery process, serving as a signal that something is wrong and that boundaries have been crossed.

You’ll learn how jealousy often appears as a sign of unmet desires and needs, and why rejection can tap into old wounds, making it feel like a personal failure, even when it’s not about you at all.

Understanding and working with these emotions is a key part of reclaiming your peace, setting healthy boundaries, and growing in your recovery from narcissistic abuse. This episode is for anyone who’s been overwhelmed by these feelings and wants to understand how they fit into the larger healing process.

In this episode, we discuss:

• How anger is a tool in trauma recovery and why it’s a sign that something needs to change.
  

• The role of jealousy in healing, and what it reveals about your desires and unmet needs.
  

• Why rejection feels so painful, especially when it mirrors the neglect and emotional abandonment from your past.
  

• How to start recognizing emotional triggers as cues for setting healthier boundaries.
  

• Why feeling these emotions is a necessary part of healing, and how they can help you create a life that honors you.
  

Resources Mentioned in This Episode:

• Mayhem Daughters – A supportive, trauma-informed community for daughters of narcissistic mothers.

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• Thursday Group Waitlist: If you are interested in joining our Thursday Evening Group for Daughters

  
  

  
  
  
  

If you’ve been struggling with jealousy, anger, or rejection in your healing journey, this episode will help you make sense of those emotions and reclaim your sense of self. Remember, these emotions are signals—not obstacles—and understanding them can empower you to set stronger, healthier boundaries in your life.

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In this powerful episode of Mother Mayhem, you’ll hear the story of a brave Mayhem Daughter who has been a regular in our Tuesday Group. While we can’t take credit for all that she has overcome, we are incredibly proud to be part of her healing journey.

This daughter shares her raw and transformative experience of growing up with a narcissistic mother. Her story highlights the complexity of surviving emotional, psychological, and physical abuse and the long road to healing.

In her words, she reveals how she faced betrayal, neglect, and manipulation by the person who should have been her protector.

Join us as we dive into the reality of narcissistic abuse, how it shapes our sense of self, and the immense strength it takes to choose healing.

This episode is not just about survival, but about reclaiming one’s life on their own terms.

You’ll gain insights into how to navigate your own healing path, and how community support can play a pivotal role in your journey toward reclaiming your power.

In this episode, we discuss:

• How narcissistic abuse impacts a daughter’s sense of self and relationships.
  

• The emotional and psychological toll of growing up with a narcissistic and emotionally unavailable mother.
  

• Why the word resilience can often minimize the deep unfairness of surviving abuse.
  

• How to honor your healing journey, even when it feels like an uphill battle.
  

• The importance of finding a supportive community to help you heal and grow.
  

Links mentioned in this episode:

• Tuesday Group: A weekly support group for daughters of narcissistic and emotionally limited mothers.
  

• Thursday Evening Group Waitlist: For East Coast listeners and others who prefer an evening group.
  

• Mayhem Daughters: Join our trauma-informed, healing community.

  
  

  Also mentioned: Simple Scripts for Saying Hard Things

In today’s episode of Mother Mayhem, we explore how to navigate a relationship with your narcissistic or emotionally limited mother when you haven’t decided whether to go no or low contact.

This conversation brings up so many emotions, from guilt and confusion to anger and sadness, and it’s important to recognize that healing and decision-making around these relationships are complex and deeply personal.

In this episode, we discuss:

• How to manage feelings of guilt, obligation, and self-doubt during this process

• Practical strategies for setting boundaries

• The importance of trusting yourself and listening to your needs while navigating these challenging relationships

If you’re ready for more support:

• Join Tuesday Group: Our weekly support group for daughters of narcissistic or emotionally limited mothers.

• Sign Up for Mayhem Daughters: A private, online community offering a safe space for healing and connection with others who understand your experience.

  Also mentioned: Simple Scripts for Saying Hard Things

If you grew up with a narcissistic or emotionally limited mother, you learned to survive in an environment where love was conditional and your worth was tied to how much you gave.

So when you met him—the charming, attentive, affectionate man who made you feel seen—it didn’t feel dangerous. It felt like love. Like finally being chosen.

But over time, the warmth faded. The pressure grew. No matter how much you gave, it was never enough. And maybe, just maybe, you started to wonder if you were the problem.

Here’s the truth: you didn’t attract this. You didn’t cause this.

Your need to be loved was never the issue. But he? He was never going to be satisfied.

You don’t have to keep playing this game. You get to name it. You get to heal.

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Also mentioned: Simple Scripts for Saying Hard Things

What does healing actually look like when you’ve grown up with a narcissistic or emotionally limited mother? In this episode, follow a daughter for a month as she takes you inside her daily experience of being a daughter—navigating triggers, small (but powerful) shifts, and the quiet work of untangling old patterns.

From noticing what once went unseen to facing the deep ache of being mothered by someone who couldn’t love you the way you deserved, this episode is a raw, real-time look at what it means to do this work.

Want a space to process all of this with others who truly get it?

• Tuesday Group is our weekly peer support space where daughters come together to talk through the hard stuff, support each other, and move toward healing in a way that feels grounding and safe.

• Mayhem Daughters is our private online community built for daughters who want deeper connection, ongoing support, and a space that isn’t social media.

  Also mentioned: Simple Scripts for Saying Hard Things