Whether you're hoping to improve your marriage, deepen your self-awareness, or finally feel safe in love, this episode meets you right where you are. Inner Child Healer Tami Schiltz joins forces with psychotherapist, sex educator, and relationship coach Christie Bemis to unpack the real reasons relationships feel stuck—and how inner child work can unlock lasting connection, communication, and emotional safety.

You’ll learn how childhood patterns sneak into adult relationships, how to identify your adaptive child responses, and why being triggered is actually an invitation to heal—not a red flag.

We also break down Christie’s SPARCS relationship assessment tool (Safety, Play/Pleasure, Attunement, Realized Dreams, Communication, and Sex/Intimacy), and the 5 losing strategies that sabotage connection: withdrawal, retaliation, controlling, needing to be right, and unbridled self-expression.

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Show Notes:

• 00:00 Introduction and Vulnerability in Conversations
• 05:05 The Importance of Safety in Relationships
• 08:00 Key Elements of Healthy Relationships
• 10:45 Understanding Couples Therapy Dynamics
• 13:33 The Role of Inner Child Work
• 15:56 Navigating Triggers in Relationships
• 18:48 The Adaptive Child and Relationship Dynamics
• 22:07 Communication and Emotional Safety
• 24:37 Compassion and Understanding in Relationships
• 27:44 The Impact of Childhood on Adult Relationships
• 32:32 Understanding Safety and Sensitivity
• 35:46 The Impact of Gaslighting on Relationships
• 40:07 Navigating Emotional Safety in Relationships
• 43:49 The Importance of Inner Child Work
• 48:16 Finding Motivation for Inner Child Healing
• 51:36 Reconnecting with Your Inner Child
• 55:14 Embracing Sexuality and Aliveness
• 01:00:44 Creating Meaningful Conversations

Erika and I first crossed paths at the gym, but our real connection came through shared soul work—intuition, signs, healing, and the drive to live life on purpose. In this episode, we dive into Erika’s journey from gym goals to soul goals, and how bodybuilding became a gateway to profound healing (inner child healing)!

Expect honesty, laughter, and spiritual realness as they break down self-prioritization, ego work, the mental health side of fitness, AND the behind-the-scenes of hosting a podcast (she’s the heart behind My Fit Tribe)!

This conversation is a reminder that healing doesn’t have to look one way, and honoring your journey (and your body) is one of the bravest things you can do.

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Show Notes: 00:00 – How We Met: From gym connection to soul sisters 16:48 – Spiritual awakenings & trusting the inner nudge 20:00 – Erika’s entry into bodybuilding & what it revealed 22:48 – Challenges behind the scenes of transformation 25:49 – The art of self-prioritization and keeping promises to yourself 28:41 – Navigating relationships during big personal shifts 31:59 – Purpose isn't found, it's built 34:40 – Building ‘My Fit Tribe’ and why community is everything 37:45 – Fitness as a tool for mental clarity & emotional release 41:03 – The power of saying yes to change 51:50 – Rewriting gym anxiety & taking up space 55:12 – When spirituality meets the squat rack 56:57 – Recognizing and moving through distractions and fear 01:01:24 – Intuition, signs, and embracing spiritual gifts 01:06:40 – What it means to grow with grace 01:12:00 – Celebrating the collective rise of women 01:16:49 – The mission behind Erika’s podcast: My Fit Tribe

Episodes Mentioned:

• Episode 61 (Brittany)
• Episode 56 (Self-Sabotage)
• Episode 47: (Let Them)
• Episode 46: (Keith - Mental Mountains Project)

If you’re somewhere between breaking down and breaking through—this episode is for you!

In this episode of Tami Talks: Unscripted Healing, Tami sits down with her Bestie and Soul Sister, Brittany, to explore the raw, unfiltered journey of emotional growth, midlife transitions, and learning to love our mess. From a dietitian who needed to reset her own health to a counselor who realized she needed therapy, this episode dives into the heart of what it means to release guilt and shame around our stories. Together, Tami and Brittany unpack the emotional layers of midlife "crisis" (or awakening), the freedom in vulnerability, and how true healing begins when we stop trying to fix everything and start feeling everything.

They discuss how to process anger, redefine success, support other women without feeling like a burden, and hold space without becoming the “fixer.” The episode also explores spiritual signs, intuitive nudges, and the importance of safe spaces where hard conversations aren’t just normalized—they’re necessary.

Show Notes:

• 00:00 Introduction and Connection
• 07:03 The Importance of Safe Spaces in Relationships
• 11:05 Releasing guilt + shame around our stories
• 12:57 The Journey of Self-Discovery and Acceptance
• 15:53 Anger, midlife crisis & redirecting your life
• 18:58 Finding Joy Beyond Caregiving
• 19:24 Redefining success & embracing your own timeline
• 24:47 Breaking the Cycle of Shame and Abandonment
• 30:45 Spiritual Connections and Normalizing Vulnerability
• 36:54 Navigating Emotions and Intuition
• 44:32 Understanding Triggers and Communication
• 47:09 Holding space vs. Fixing
• 52:25 Learning from Missteps and Guilt
• 55:03 Breaking shame cycles around our bodies
• 57:49 Embracing the Messiness of Life

Whether you're deep in self-discovery, holding heavy emotions, or just trying to figure things out—this one's for you.

Episodes Mentioned:

• Jamie & Kevin: Episode #57
• Andrew Episode: Episode #42

Healing doesn’t show up in big, perfect moments — it’s in the small shifts we almost miss. This week, Tami shares 5 signs you're truly growing, how she prepared herself to feel ALL the feels after her divorce was finalized, plus the story of how a donkey sign, an accidental "ass moment," and her daughter's frustration turned into a real-life lesson in slowing down and repairing with love.

Whether you're parenting, navigating relationships, or working on your own healing and growth, these non-scale victories show you're changing cycles for yourself — and for those around you.

If you've ever wondered, "Am I actually healing?" — this conversation is for you.

Episodes Mentioned:

• Episode #4: Your Inner Child is Blocking Your Weight Loss
• Episode #43: Sabotage to Self-Love: Resolutions that Empower, Not Restrict
• Episode 58: From Childhood Trauma to Iron Will

Products I Love & Mention:

• Hiya Kid's Multivitamins
• Grounding Mat
  • Awesome info on the benefits of Grounding

Chapters:

• 00:00 Introduction to Healing Journey
• 08:12 Recognizing Signs of Healing
• 12:10 Top Signs You Are Healing
• 14:33 Personal Reflections on Divorce and Healing
• 17:47 Embracing Emotions
• 23:08 Choosing Curiosity Over Judgment
• 26:13 The Arrow Analogy: Trusting the Process
• 31:27 Finding Wholeness in Healing
• 36:22 Celebrating Small Victories
• 39:13 Lessons from Children
• 45:34 The Importance of Presence
• 48:21 Navigating Conflict and Apologies
• 51:07 Understanding Victim Mentality
• 54:12 Healing Conversations with Children
• 56:35 Siblings and Emotional Intelligence
• 01:00:58 The Importance of Emotional Regulation
• 01:06:08 Embracing a Range of Emotions
• 01:10:22 Trusting Support in Relationships
• 01:16:50 Self-Worth and Inner Healing

What if disappointing others didn’t mean losing love?

In this episode of Tami Talks: Unscripted Healing, Tami explores the fear of disappointing others—and how it often stems from childhood experiences and a deep belief that love is conditional and can easily be taken away.

From childhood trauma to adult relationships, Tami explores how this fear often roots itself in the belief that disappointment equals a withdrawal of love. Through honest reflections and stories, she sheds light on how people-pleasing behaviors develop, how the ego tries to protect us, and why setting boundaries can feel so emotionally risky.

This episode is an invitation to reconnect with your inner child, speak your truth without guilt, and embrace the idea that disappointing others doesn't make you unlovable—it makes you human.

✨ Ready to explore where this fear might be showing up in your life? Schedule a FREE Discovery Call at www.unscriptedhealingwi.com

Show Notes:

• 00:00 Introduction and Gratitude
• 01:53 Exploring the Fear of Disappointment
• 04:00 Childhood Roots of Fear
• 06:59 People-Pleasing and Its Consequences
• 10:01 Setting Boundaries and Speaking Up
• 12:53 The Impact of Disappointment on Relationships
• 15:59 Ego and Self-Abandonment
• 19:00 Navigating Emotional Discomfort
• 21:49 The Importance of Clear Communication
• 24:57 Reconnecting with the Inner Child
• 27:51 Practicing Disappointment for Growth
• 30:53 Facing Major Life Decisions
• 34:04 Healing Generational Patterns
• 36:50 Conclusion and Call to Action

*Trigger Warning: There is mention of domestic abuse in this episode.

Episode #58: In this episode of Tami Talks: Unscripted Healing, I sit down with my dear friend Wendy C. Wilson—speaker, coach, and author of Iron Will—to talk about the long road from childhood trauma to deep healing, purpose, and emotional freedom.

Wendy shares how witnessing abuse as a child, walking on eggshells, and struggling with self-worth shaped everything from her relationships to how she showed up at work. We dive into how people-pleasing, silence, and survival mode can follow us into adulthood—and how healing those inner wounds changes everything.

This conversation is raw, real, and full of wisdom about breaking cycles, reclaiming your voice, and trusting the timing of your purpose. If you’ve ever felt like you’re still waiting for clarity, this one will hit home.

You can purchase Wendy's Book: Iron Will on Amazon

Wendy's Website: https://wendycwilson.com/

Show Note:

• 00:00 Introduction and Meeting Wendy
• 05:08 Turning Pain into Purpose
• 09:12 Childhood Trauma and Its Impact
• 19:13 Breaking the Cycle of Abuse
• 25:25 Overcoming Self-Doubt and Building Confidence
• 33:53 The Power of Personal Development and Self-Awareness
• 44:45 Permission to Feel and Process Emotions
• 50:55 Finding Purpose Through Pain
• 59:43 The Impact of Childhood Experiences
• 01:06:03 Healing Generational Wounds
• 01:10:53 The Power of Kindness and Gratitude
• 01:16:21 Coaching and Empowering Others

Healing the past to expand the vision is at the heart of this episode of Tami Talks: Unscripted Healing. I sit down with Jaime and Kevin White—coaches, healers, and real-deal humans—who know what it’s like to walk through the fire (including a move to an entirely new country) and come out the other side with purpose and clarity.

We unpack the layers of human design, generational patterns, entrepreneurship, and the deeply rooted fear many women carry around being seen. This episode is a powerful reminder that you can’t play big carrying old pain—and that healing the past is often the key to expanding your vision for the future.

From the illusion of money to the freedom of surrender, this conversation invites you to release outdated programming, lean into your intuitive gifts, and finally trust the process—even when there's no proof, only faith. Healing is messy. Growth is sacred. And you’re not meant to do it alone!

Show Notes:

• 00:00 Introduction to Personal and Generational Blocks
• 10:02 The Journey of Alignment and Marriage 2.0
• 12:45 Understanding Roles in Personal Development
• 15:10 The Importance of Self-Discovery Tools
• 18:00 Navigating Triggers in Relationships
• 20:50 The Intersection of Business and Personal Growth
• 23:38 Healing and Uncovering Hidden Gifts
• 26:38 The Value of Spiritual Work and Worthiness
• 29:04 Generational Issues and Women's Empowerment
• 36:37 The Evolution of Women's Spirituality
• 37:57 Embracing the Entrepreneurial Calling
• 40:00 Understanding Human Design and Intuition
• 43:30 Navigating Emotional Waves and Decision Making
• 45:35 The Role of Community in Spiritual Growth
• 50:35 Trusting Yourself in Entrepreneurship
• 58:47 The Journey of Relocation and Transformation
• 01:02:16 Embracing Change and Surrendering to Growth
• 01:03:48 The Journey of Letting Go
• 01:06:01 The Importance of Trust and Support
• 01:07:53 Creating Community and Connection
• 01:09:11 Immersion Experiences for Personal Growth
• 01:11:27 Navigating Fear and Expanding Horizons
• 01:13:18 Finding Safety in Growth
• 01:16:00 The Power of Relationships and Trusting the Process

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Have you ever caught yourself sabotaging a good thing—whether it’s a relationship, opportunity, weight loss efforts, gym streak, or personal success—without really knowing why?

You're not alone. In this deeply personal episode of Tami Talks: Unscripted Healing, I open up about my own experiences with self-sabotage and why we often push away the very things we desire. It’s not because we don’t want health, happiness, or wealth—it’s because if you have unhealed childhood wounds, your nervous system is still wired for chaos and control, not peace and safety.

*Trigger Warning for anyone who has experienced a miscarriage or loss of a child. I talk about it only regarding the lack of support women receive - and send anyone who has experienced either so much love and healing.

This journey of healing is messy, ongoing, and beautifully unscripted—but the more we understand ourselves, the more we can step into the love, joy, and success we truly deserve.

Show Notes:

• 00:00 Introduction and Exciting Announcements
• 07:35 Understanding Self-Sabotage
• 16:19 The Craving for Control and Its Roots
• 26:57 Recalibrating to Peace and Stability
• 27:45 The Journey to Worthiness 30:45 Investing in Self-Care
• 33:11 Navigating Guilt and Shame 35:32 Overcoming Self-Sabotage
• 38:24 Embracing Success and Authenticity
• 41:40 Rewriting Internal Narratives
• 44:16 Creating Safety Within
• 48:52 Breaking Free from Self-Sabotage
• 54:32 Seeking Support and Healing

Episodes Mentioned:

• Episode #17: Lies & Loss (Colleen)
• Episode #8: What Self-Sabotage Really Is