If you're battling your teenager over late-night phone sessions, you're not alone!

In this episode, Heidi shares why phone and tech boundaries are especially tricky for strong-willed and neurodivergent kids (you know - the SPICY children who don't respond to 'traditional' parenting techniques 🤣).

Learn how to identify what's really driving their behavior and unpack strategies for compromise that work for everyone.

Here's the question Heidi received for Q&A from a mom in the Prism Perspective community:

"My 13-year-old SPICY child thinks she should be able to determine her bedtime, which would be anywhere up to 3am if I let her on school nights.

"When do we enforce a ‘phones off’ policy with a SPICY child?"

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If you'd love more in-depth parenting strategies that actually work with strong-willed and neurodivergent kids, Prism Perspective is exactly what you need.

No more walking on eggshells 🥚 in your own home, or pulling your hair out when generic positive parenting just adds fuel to an already blazing fire!

Learn more about Prism and discover the community where strong-willed, SPICY kids are understood... and FINALLY get the parenting tools that work (with the support you need) 👇

https://heidilinks.com/prism-pod-pp

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When we're trying to improve our emotional wellbeing, we usually focus on the present or the future.

But what if the key to healing and feeling ‘whole’ is actually in our past? 🤔

That's where reparenting comes in.

Reparenting is about connecting with and caring for your inner child—the part of you that holds the memories and feelings from your early experiences.

Sound a little ‘woo woo’... or… maybe super-interesting?

Either way, this deep-dive coaching session with Leigh (one of our team members) will give you tonnes of insight into reparenting, understanding and practicing self-compassion, and breaking the glass of what we think we know about ourselves.

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If you'd love more in-depth parenting strategies that actually work with strong-willed and neurodivergent kids, Prism Perspective is exactly what you need.

No more walking on eggshells 🥚 in your own home, or pulling your hair out when generic positive parenting just adds fuel to an already blazing fire!

Learn more about Prism and discover the community where strong-willed, SPICY kids are understood... and FINALLY get the parenting tools that work (with the support you need) 👇

https://heidilinks.com/prism-pod-pp

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Parenting a SPICY child is often lonely, exhausting, isolating and overwhelming.

I know because I have a SPICY child myself, and I see ya’ll in private practice every week 🤣

We live in a society that says children should all fit into a neat little box of behavior and personality… and if they don’t… well… it must be the parents’ fault!

But most of society has no clue what it’s like to parent a SPICY child!

Join me as I break down some of the myths surrounding self-compassion, and why making it a habit will forever change your life (like, in a positive way! 🤣).

There’s also a little exercise at the end if you’d like to give this whole ‘self-compassion thing’ a try.

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If you'd love more in-depth parenting strategies that actually work with strong-willed and neurodivergent kids, Prism Perspective is exactly what you need.

No more walking on eggshells 🥚 in your own home, or pulling your hair out when generic positive parenting just adds fuel to an already blazing fire!

Learn more about Prism and discover the community where strong-willed, SPICY kids are understood... and FINALLY get the parenting tools that work (with the support you need) 👇

https://heidilinks.com/prism-pod-pp

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It helps grow the channel and reach more people who need the unique tools for navigating parenthood with a strong-willed or neurodivergent child 🙂

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Heidi answers the following question in this episode:

"Hi Heidi, why doesn’t positive parenting work on my spicy 8 year old? My 10 year old is so different and much more dutiful, compliant and easy. My 8 year old is aggressive, violent and hates any talk about feelings. It feels like we are all walking eggshells. My husband yells and isn’t as patient as me, but I lose it too, as nothing seems to work. I could talk about feelings and validate the emotions of my 10 year old but Mr 8 hates any kind of emotional chat. Why is he like this?"

Heidi answers this question by discussing:

• emotional regulation and how it's such a key issue for SPICY kids
• the two main beliefs SPICY kids have about themselves
• how needing choice, feeling anxious and angry outbursts are all interconnected
• a discussion around the belief a lot of people have that these kids are choosing to be this way and are just disrespectful, strong willed and defiant
• what to do and say when your child says 'I hate you!' or 'I'm running away!'

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If you'd love more in-depth parenting strategies that actually work with strong-willed and neurodivergent kids, Prism Perspective is exactly what you need.

No more walking on eggshells 🥚 in your own home, or pulling your hair out when generic positive parenting just adds fuel to an already blazing fire!

Learn more about Prism and discover the community where strong-willed, SPICY kids are understood... and FINALLY get the parenting tools that work (with the support you need) 👇

https://heidilinks.com/prism-pod-pp

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It helps grow the channel and reach more people who need the unique tools for navigating parenthood with a strong-willed or neurodivergent child 🙂

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Ever wondered if transformation was possible for you, or if healing yourself was even an option outside of therapy?

I chatted with my colleague and fellow therapist, Tom Ahern this week, all about our journeys in self-healing and managing our mental health.

It was fascinating to dive deep into the topic and explore the idea that therapy isn’t the only route to self-healing (pretty wild - coming from two therapists!).

Some of the questions we discuss:

• What does self-healing mean anyway?
• Why do you call it an 'art'?
• What do you know about self-healing?
• What's your experience with self-healing?
• How do you know it's effective?
• How does therapy fit into the picture?
• What would you say to someone who feels stuck and is having a hard time in their own self-healing?

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Connect with Tom

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tom.ahern
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/tombahern
Medium: https://medium.com/@tom.ahern
YouTube: https://bit.ly/2shhVqM
Podcast: https://anchor.fm/the-mind-mate-podcast

Connect with Heidi

Instagram: www.instagram.com/heidirogers_
Facebook: www.facebook.com/heidirogers.hello
Website: www.heidirogers.com

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If you'd love more in-depth parenting strategies that actually work with strong-willed and neurodivergent kids, Prism Perspective is exactly what you need.

No more walking on eggshells 🥚 in your own home, or pulling your hair out when generic positive parenting just adds fuel to an already blazing fire!

Learn more about Prism and discover the community where strong-willed, SPICY kids are understood... and FINALLY get the parenting tools that work (with the support you need) 👇

https://heidilinks.com/prism-pod-pp

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It helps grow the channel and reach more people who need the unique tools for navigating parenthood with a strong-willed or neurodivergent child 🙂

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One of the most common things people say to me is, "I know if I could just change my thinking and be more positive, then I’d be happy. I know it's my fault I'm unhappy because of the thoughts I choose".

If it were THAT simple and just 'thinking happy thoughts' was the key to everything, then the world would be a really happy place. But it's not, because it's not that simple.

Taking a 'bottom up approach' is a much easier way to find happiness.

When we begin the practice of noticing how we feel: the sensations in our body, our breathing, our heart rate… we can start to unlock the causes of our unhappiness.

In this podcast, I explain how to do this, and why it's so important.

Prioritizing the feelings in our body over the thoughts in our mind puts us on the fast-track to happiness.

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If you'd love more in-depth parenting strategies that actually work with strong-willed and neurodivergent kids, Prism Perspective is exactly what you need.

No more walking on eggshells 🥚 in your own home, or pulling your hair out when generic positive parenting just adds fuel to an already blazing fire!

Learn more about Prism and discover the community where strong-willed, SPICY kids are understood... and FINALLY get the parenting tools that work (with the support you need) 👇

https://heidilinks.com/prism-pod-pp

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It helps grow the channel and reach more people who need the unique tools for navigating parenthood with a strong-willed or neurodivergent child 🙂

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I often hear from parents:

"My child’s teacher has recommended my son / daughter have an assessment to understand their behaviors a bit more. I’m not sure how I feel about this. I think a label will hurt them long-term and I don’t want them to be treated differently."

In this clip, I share my thoughts on this and provide some guidance around WHY an assessment may or may not be helpful.

I hope it helps!

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If you'd love more in-depth parenting strategies that actually work with strong-willed and neurodivergent kids, Prism Perspective is exactly what you need.

No more walking on eggshells 🥚 in your own home, or pulling your hair out when generic positive parenting just adds fuel to an already blazing fire!

Learn more about Prism and discover the community where strong-willed, SPICY kids are understood... and FINALLY get the parenting tools that work (with the support you need) 👇

https://heidilinks.com/prism-pod-pp

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It helps grow the channel and reach more people who need the unique tools for navigating parenthood with a strong-willed or neurodivergent child 🙂

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Join Heidi and Vanessa (a trauma therapist and Licensed Mental Health Social Worker) on their deep dive into all things body image, and how to find freedom in food.

Some of the topics covered:

• What determines health?
• What is body neutrality?
• Easy ways to promote healthy body image to your kids
• How to protect your kids from developing a negative body image
• Labeling foods "good" or "bad"
• Emotional eating, and what to do if you or another family member is doing it
• The ideal meal time experience, and how meal environment impacts us
• How fat phobia and diet culture impact us and our kids

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Connect with Vanessa

Instagram:
@vanessa_preston_

Website:
www.greenlifepsychology.com

CURIOUS Method registration:
https://pfnl.co/XZdeT

BFF Project:
https://greenlifepsychology.com/the-body-food-freedom-project/

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If you'd love more in-depth parenting strategies that actually work with strong-willed and neurodivergent kids, Prism Perspective is exactly what you need.

No more walking on eggshells 🥚 in your own home, or pulling your hair out when generic positive parenting just adds fuel to an already blazing fire!

Learn more about Prism and discover the community where strong-willed, SPICY kids are understood... and FINALLY get the parenting tools that work (with the support you need) 👇

https://heidilinks.com/prism-pod-pp

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If you find this episode helpful, please don't forget to rate and subscribe.

It helps grow the channel and reach more people who need the unique tools for navigating parenthood with a strong-willed or neurodivergent child 🙂

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