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  • My Lesson from Stoneys Rocking Country Last Night and Made Up Dancing Rules

    My Lesson from Stoneys Rocking Country Last Night and Made Up Dancing Rules
    2022/10/07
    Last night I was at Stoneys Rockin’ Country. A nice cowboy guy asked me to dance. We were dancing…and he said ‘oops, I’m sorry, I messed up.’ I said ‘you can’t mess up dancing. You can’t do it wrong as long as you’re having fun!’ I don’t think he agreed lol. Back when I was first learning to two-step, I would have guys stop me in the middle of the dance floor and tell me I’m doing it wrong. They were obviously not good at living in the moment. I’m all for ‘hey, let’s try this, and if you turn this way when my hand goes here, then we can do this cool move and it’s fun!’ But ‘you’re doing it wrong’ or ‘i’m doing it wrong’? Nah. We can’t do it ‘wrong.’ What’s the purpose of dancing? To have fun. When I like the song, I always have fun dancing. This podcast episode is NOT for all of you who are like ‘um, Julie, you’re wrong, obviously there’s a right way and a wrong way to dance.’ This episode is for all of you who are like ‘wait a minute…I literally make up the rules for my own life…and as long as I’m having fun dancing, I AM doing it right!’ And learning new things is fun, but I still can’t do it ‘wrong’ as long as I’m having fun! I’ve been practicing doing things that feel good. Letting go of how things look to other people or what other people’s expectations are of me. At a recent conference there was a live band and one of my formerly ‘dreaded’ things happened. A dance circle. Just so you know where I’m coming from, I never even shook my booty even a little bit before I turned 25. You know the movie footloose? Yeah. haha. That was me. So when I first went dancing with some friends, I LOVED the idea of it, but was SO worried about whether or not I was doing it right. They taught me some moves, but still… a dance circle was a nightmare for me haha. So I was at this conference we were all dancing to the music and then the crowd parted and the dreaded dance circle started. This is not a story where I was awesome and went in the middle and crushed it. This is a story of my friend Cathey who continued to do her own thing outside of the circle. I was honestly mesmerized by her moves. She doesn’t drink so everything she did was 100% her normal every day self. As she danced, one thing became clear to me. The reason that her moves were so awesome. She was dancing for herself. She could not care less about what anyone else was doing…she had the largest most awesome smile and was absolutely crushing it. And by crushing it, I don’t mean she was doing anything fancy. She was just being 100% her. And it was inspiring. I've been thinking a lot about what I’m put on earth to do. And I think that one of the things I’m here to do is show you that you can dance YOUR way and you can’t do it wrong. You can’t do the dance of life wrong. One of my exes had the moves memorized but he had no rhythm. (no judgment here haha, I didn’t care) Even though I LOVE dancing and we met while dancing, he NEVER wanted to go out dancing. But every wedding we went to, he trotted me out and showed off for the crowd, edging the others off the dance floor. And yes, we DID make quite a spectacle. I’m talking flips and that move that Baby did in that one movie where she ran and did a headstand off his shoulders as he held her hips… But he didn’t dance for pleasure…he danced to be seen of others. How many of us are missing the dance of life?…We trott out memorized dance moves to be seen of others. We learn more moves and train harder, not for pleasure of the moves, but because we want to impress others. Ew. It’s so much more fun to ask ourselves ‘what do we want to do?’ This World has so many exciting and amazing things we can do for work. So many things we can do for pure pleasure. So many things we can learn. So many people to meet. So many cultures to experience. What would I do if no matter what I chose to do and no matter who I chose to be…everyone who matters thinks I’m awesome? (side note…the only person who needs to think you’re awesome is you…and the rest will happen naturally…) I had another boyfriend who loved dancing but thought he wasn’t good at it. (Not enough characters left, listen or check out the full story on my Rhino Julie FB page for this part of the story) It’s a great journal prompt: What moments in life can we enjoy more fully if we let go of the made up rules of others. We are all different…we all have ways that we want to show up and things we want to do. But no one else can make your rules for you. You have to make your own. If it feels good to you, check out my private online group at www.rhinojulie.com … In the private group I make live courses on making your own rules for business, relationships, money, weight loss and life in general. I share things I would NEVER share on the interwebs and enjoy the camaraderie of the like minded souls in the group. We are all learning, ...
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  • When life gives you lemons paint your walls yellow.

    When life gives you lemons paint your walls yellow.
    2022/09/13

    My life partner wants kids...I don't...how I handle our breakup.

    No, I don't actually talk about painting my walls yellow in the episode, but here is a picture of my Mom and I painting them just a few days after my breakup.

    Lol it WAS therapeutic.

     
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  • Successful business owners worried about 'failure' or 'quitting'

    Successful business owners worried about 'failure' or 'quitting'
    2022/08/02

    How to overcome the fear of failure or quitting...

    What if failure didn’t exist? What if the implications of failure are just something we made up as humans?

    What if we were put on earth to follow our hearts and our intuition and try lot’s and lot’s of different things?

    What if there was no failure, there was only learning and growing?

    On a coaching call yesterday, one of my Mastermind Members has finished what I call a season of purpose.

    (She was feeling like she had failed, but we reframed it together) She started a new business 3 ½ years ago, went hard, put everything she had into it, and changed lives.

    But it was the hardest years of her life and she gave up a LOT personally to keep it going.

    There were some tough feelings of regret that surfaced.

    But I asked her ‘Why would you want to erase all that learning and growing? You are perfectly set up for your next season of purpose.’

    That’s right, we can have different seasons of purpose.

    Meaning…there doesn’t have to be just one purpose that we spend our whole lives fulfilling or searching for.

    We can have many different seasons of purpose and many different seasons of friendships.

    She has had many people try to tell her ‘you’re in the tough part, you can’t quit now, keep going, you’ve got this!’

    They mean well.

    But what if there is no ‘quitting’?

    What if there is just choosing something better?

    There are so many made up rules about how we are supposed to live this life.

    Really, we are only supposed to try one thing and stick to it no matter what?

    We are supposed to finish the degree even if we start hating the subject?

    We are supposed to stay with the person when our heart and soul are in agony?

    Choosing is not quitting.

    It’s okay to change our goals.

    It’s okay to decide ‘this or something better.’

    It’s okay to decide ‘I don’t want this anymore, I want that.’

    And it’s also okay if we feel like we crashed and burned many times along the way.

    It’s okay if the thing we were excited about, we are no longer excited about.

    What if we were put here to try as many experiences as possible while being nice to our fellow humans and spreading the joy that only comes from following our hearts?

    I have an entrepreneur friend whose goal is to make 1 Million a year…in profit.

    She’s in her 40’s and has been at the game a while.

    She is currently at about $500,000 profit per year and heading towards $750,000.

    She was up till 2am the night before we talked, working.

    We talked about this subject of ‘choosing isn’t quitting.’

    She said ‘I feel like I make goals and then I quit before I achieve them.’

    I said ‘choosing to change your goals isn’t quitting.’

    ‘And…what’s wrong with $500,000 per year?’

    She told me about when she was making $300,000 per year…and how she only worked 1 ½ hours a day…and how happy she was…but then she got bored!

    I love her story lol.

    As entrepreneurs we often get bored with what we are doing.

    And that’s okay, too.

    But when we are seeking our next season of purpose, it’s important to not let the outside ideas and pressure in.

    It’s important to not make our new goals based off of something that other people deem ‘cool.’

    What do WE want?

    What lights us up?

    Currently, what lights me up is helping my entrepreneur friends with their businesses.

    I love hearing about their businesses and I LOVE strategy.

    But most of all I love listening to their hearts and peeling back the layers of ‘shoulds’ and ‘rules’, just like they do for me. 
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  • Cringy stories of unconfidence and where my newfound confidence came from...

    Cringy stories of unconfidence and where my newfound confidence came from...
    2022/07/29
    I decided to share stuff more openly on social media in 2020. I made a cringy video and edited my spaces and ums out. I didn’t keep up with it very well. But little by little it got easier and easier to do. This blog is about how to get more confidence and where it comes from. ***I would watch the video instead of read the blog…it’s more fun with some extra stuff…but some of you are readers and not watchers or listeners so I honor you with this written version that were just my notes for the video**** Yep, you guessed it, I’m about to share where I am now and then I’m going to share some super cringy examples of where I used to be. But first…why do we care so gosh darn much about what people think????? Well, it’s because in the ‘olden’ days we would have been thrown out of our wandering tribe into the wilderness to be eaten by a bear if we didn’t fit in. And our thousands of years old brain has us programmed to fit in for survival. Okay, now that we have that settled, back to the confidence topic. Where I am now: “I wish I had your confidence!” I hear that a lot. My boyfriend says I’m the most confident person he’s ever met. And he’s a musician.  Where I was then: I used to eat lunch in the middle school bathroom because trying to fit in was so agonizing. I knew some nice girls but I always felt like they knew things I didn’t, knew how to act, knew what was cool, knew what to say. I was so nervous before the first bootcamp I taught in the parks that I couldn’t eat or sleep.  I agonized over every little thing, replaying how the class went in my head and the things I should have done better. When I started the first Henderson location, I put fliers on doors and got 12 women to sign up. This was the first time I was going to have all of them show up at once. Before, I would have one or two trickle in to ‘try it’ but then they would leave so it was mostly my friends and family who weren’t paying. This was different. They were paying $200 a month. I was trying to figure out how I should treat them, how I should start the class and how I should end the class. Mom said her aerobics instructor hugged everyone. So I started by hugging everyone and being ridiculously cheerful and upbeat. But that wasn’t me. I mean, I like hugging people, but this was called ‘BOOTCAMP’ not Hug Camp. So the next day I left the hugs at home and started the class with a hardcore set of rules for the class.  And we ended it bringing our sweaty hands in and yelling ‘BOOTCAMP TOUGH’ at the top of our lungs. Much better. Now let’s talk about dating. Before, I would change myself to be more ‘likable’ for whoever I was with. I would also cook, clean (okay, I’m not much of a cleaner but better than most dudes), and ‘serve’ them like the woman most of us were brought up to be. I would pride myself on never arguing with them and always taking care of them. Then I would break up with them because you can’t live that life for very long, you know? With Denny I am 100% myself at home.  And it’s funny how often I CHOOSE to do things for him, but he doesn’t expect it. We cook our own food, we do our own laundry, we are independent of one another but best buds. And because I’m being myself in my relationship, I am flourishing in all the other parts of my life. I never think ‘I should do x,y or z so he doesn’t want to leave me.’  Which is what I used to think until I got tired of it and then I would leave them. I have some VERY humbling stories from when I was in pretty bad relationships that I will share with my mastermind if anyone needs to feel better about these things (LOL) “Okay, okay Rhino, but what do we do to get more confidence?” Well, you know I’m gonna tell you that it starts with loving yourself. Which is something we work super hard on in my Mastermind. And I have a lot of podcast episodes about it, too. But don’t worry, there’s another way. Because for me, loving myself took 33 years LOL. And you might want to go out of your comfort zone and do something cool NOW, not years from now. The other way to get confidence is through repetition. It’s by taking a tiny step that is uncomfortable and doing it again and again until it becomes comfortable and then taking a further step. It’s just like learning to ride a bike or learning to drive or learning a new job. It’s tough at first, but then to quote my Grandpa, ‘Everything is easy when you know how.’ With writing, making podcasts, making videos, speaking, starting a new business…just take the first step knowing that it will get easier and easier. Meanwhile, know that your subconscious is fighting you the entire way. Because it’s trying to keep us safe. Historically, new things could mean danger or death. So whenever those thoughts come up that try to keep you from your new thing you are trying…ask yourself ‘is that true?’ ‘What is a truer thought?’ For example… you want to...
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  • The reason I don’t ask anyone’s opinion on anything…and the story about yesterdays elevator pitch crashing and burning.

    The reason I don’t ask anyone’s opinion on anything…and the story about yesterdays elevator pitch crashing and burning.
    2022/07/28

    The reason I don’t ask anyone’s opinion on anything…and the story about yesterdays elevator pitch crashing and burning.

    I built my new mastermind and I didn’t ask a single person what they thought about what I was doing.

    Because I realized something recently.

    If I’m not doing it from my heart, and if what I create isn’t coming fully from me, I’m not going to attract the most aligned members and I’m not going to enjoy myself nearly as much.

    I didn’t ask for advice on my personal brand colors (I LOVE them)

    I didn’t ask for advice on my landing page (I don’t love it right now, but I think the right women will see past it)

    I didn’t ask for advice on what I should provide (I woke up at 4:30 am this morning so freaking excited to work on my mastermind because I’m providing what felt aligned to provide)

    I didn’t ask for advice on my ‘elevator pitch.’ 

    Right now I’m winging it.

    I crashed and burned in an online networking group last night on my ‘elevator pitch’ LOLOL. 

    I forgot we were going to do one so I just decided to say what would come to mind.

    I thought I had a flash of brilliance…which turned out to be hilarious…

    So I said ‘I started a mastermind, it’s like Only Fans for Entrepreneurs and Women who want to work on their mindset. They get to ask questions and I give them an inside peek into what life is really like for me and how I actually got here…from miserable and broke to happy and a million dollar a year business.’

    Okay, I don’t REALLY think I crashed and burned. 

    That’s impossible.

    It’s about the energy, not the words. 

    And the women who are drawn to my Mastermind can feel that they want to be in it. 

    I can’t say it wrong, can’t do it wrong.

    ‘You should charge more.’ I’ve been getting this a lot, and it’s such a freaking compliment.

    Thanks for telling me I’m valuable.

    But I want to charge what I’m charging because it feels good to me.

    And I don’t need the money from my mastermind right now.

    One day the Mastermind will be $500 a month for new members, but right now it’s, oh, 95% less.

    I’m not asking for opinions on what I wear or how I do my hair or what pictures I choose for things.

    I do like hearing from my bf but honestly he just tells me I’m beautiful and yes, he does like my hair parted down the middle, but it’s fun the other way too.

    I don’t ask people’s opinions on what I’m doing…but I DO love hearing what other people are doing. 

    I love getting that little spark that ignites my own flame.

    It’s like I’m a candle and I put my candle against their candle and then all of the sudden I’M LIT…but it’s my own flame. It didn’t take from their flame…they still have theirs and it’s theirs alone

    Brainstorming is amazing! People are fun!

    I didn’t ask anyone if I should go by the name Rhino. 

    I just liked it.

    What if you could create anything and you couldn’t do it wrong? You couldn’t mess it up? What would you create?

     
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  • The best way to lose the weight, get the guy and build the business

    The best way to lose the weight, get the guy and build the business
    2022/07/27
    I wish I would have known this 1 year ago, 10 years ago, 20 years ago. We get a little crazy in this episode, but I think the info is important so I'm okay going out on a limb a little bit. Go to www.rhinojulie.com and join my email list to get the free gift I talk about in this episode.  I am not sure that I would have heard this before the last couple years. So I'm kind of struggling with sharing this on my YouTube channel and my podcast, because I'm just kind of thinking, like, I don't think past Julie, would've been in a position to hear this, but here's what made me decide to share. because maybe if you listen to this and you're like, I don't know what this chick is talking about. Like, I am thi this does not make any sense, but you hear it through, it might bounce around in your brain. And then one day  1, 10, 20 years from now. You'll be like, I get it. Like this happened to me. I understand. Or maybe the reason that I feel compelled to share it is because everyone's just going to. Get it. And everyone's gonna have their own examples of how this is true in their life. And every single one of you is just gonna be like, yeah, Julie, I already knew that and you are late to the party. Okay. However, this shakes down, I'm telling you what we're about to talk about is the best way to lose the weight. Best way to get the guy. . If that's what you're trying to do best way to build the business best way. To just become happy in our lives. It's the absolute best way. And like I said, you've probably heard it before, but I'm gonna give you some crazy examples of this in my own life. And here's what the big brutal secret is that without love and acceptance now, as we are the weight loss journey, the business journey. The dating journey. They are all just never ending cycles of not good enough. And there's just this giant chasm, this giant huge chasm between who we are and who we want to be, who we think we should be. And because of that, energetically, we're just not in the place to receive. All of these amazing things and to have the breakthrough. So basically we need to give ourselves permission to be us exactly as we are right now, people always used to tell me, Julie, you need to love yourself. Or they were talking about loving themselves. And I would be like loving myself. They, the way, the way that my community growing up would talk about it is, you know, it's God first it's everyone else and yourself less. Julie doesn't matter. Like Julie doesn't fit into the equation. Julie will be okay. Julie can suffer. Like, Julie's fine. Like, that was always how it was. And I think that's, most of the world believes that. And because of that, there's a lot of charitable things done and, and, and, you know, there's other ways, like, I just believe in love. but if we don't love ourselves, I just remember me really brutally real with you guys. I remember that because I didn't love myself. I was nice to other people, but I was judgemental. I didn't have just this love. I had a care for the world. I deeply cared when people were suffering, when they were wounded, when, when they needed help, I wanted to help them. But the difference between rhino now and Julie, then , I call myself rhino, is that I feel this love for the world. Most of the time, still human I'll be standing in line at the grocery store. And I'll just look at the person in front of me and I'll be like, oh look, you know, they like how they did their hair, how cute, like just, you know, having love towards them. And it's because I love myself and. With weight loss. If we don't give ourselves permission to be exactly how we are right now, a hundred percent permission. And then from that space, we choose to be like making choices that, that we want to choose. Like we, you know, we we're in this space of being fully us and fully in love with us. And then we say what feels good to us? And then all of a sudden, instead of. Making these decisions that are like binging and things like that. All of a sudden we're just supporting our bodies and we don't care about food as much. And we focus on how we want to feel, but it's bigger than that. It's bigger than that. Have you ever really wanted something really bad? Maybe you wanted kids really bad and you couldn't have them. And then once you just kind of gave up and you're like, you know, Life is fine. Like, I love my significant other. We're fine. And then all of a sudden you got pregnant or you're trying so hard to lose weight. This was me like in the beginning, when I first started my business, my, uh, my gyms, I was 65 pounds heavier and doctors had told me it'd be really, really hard for me to lose weight. And I was like, oh, this is tough. Right. And I just remember the first four months I didn't lose any weight. And I was like,  the doctors told me that. And so instead of working out so hard to lose weight, all of a sudden I decided that I just, I kinda liked what we were doing. It felt good to push...
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  • Ever feel like when you 'fix' one area of you life, another part falls apart?

    Ever feel like when you 'fix' one area of you life, another part falls apart?
    2022/07/24
    Hey, Hey, Hey Rhino Julie here, who is Rhino Julie? Well, Rhino Julie went from ridiculously broke, sad, overweight to owning a multi-location at gym business and being happy in every area of my life, except when I'm not happy in an area of my life. In which case  I fix it, move on and make that area of my life happy. And I wanna teach everyone else how to do the same. Okay. This podcast episode is about whenever we feel like we fix one area of our life and then all of the, like another area of our life just falls apart and it's like, ah, how can we juggle all the things? That's what this podcast episode is about. So we're gonna start this podcast episode by starting when I was 12. Talking about that. We're gonna talk about how I started writing a fiction book, because I felt like in the book I could escape my life and live the one that I was writing instead. And I could build any life for this girl in this book. I could save her from any situation I could make her pretty. I could make her funny. I could make her super smart. I could make her whatever I wanted to make her. And I started the book with her sitting and looking out the window. She was at the lowest point in her life broke, loveless, I had quite the imagination at 12. Actually when I was 12, I was going through some stuff, the transition from 12 to 13, let's just say I ate lunch in the bathroom at school for a lot of different reasons. And we had this minister living with us and he was amazing. Okay. He was great.  Anybody who gives their life for something is awesome. And he thought it would be really good for me if he took me around house to house and had me knock on the doors of all of the friends, my friends in my middle school. Well, I mean, I say friends like loosely, like I definitely, there was a group of really cool girls that I got to hang out with, but I just was not. I was going through a lot of stuff. And then talking to these girls later, like they were going through these things too, and they felt super insecure and awful too. But I liked to eat lunch in the bathroom because then nobody would take my lunch and I could read my book. Okay. So he would have me go around door to door, knock on the door and say, "Hi, my name is Julie". We're holding bible studies at our house and I was in my dress and stuff. And one time, like this girl answers the door and she was just one of the most popular girls in school that I never really talked to. And I just like froze. And he nudged me, the minister nudged me. He was 83 years old. He was, he was awesome. He nudged me, and he's like, "Say your thing." And so I would say my thing and I just remember being so, mortified. And I was living in the laundry room because the ministers were staying with us, which is fine. Mom made it, she put a little caught in there for me. It was fine. Okay. What I'm trying to say is at this time in my life, when I was trying to write this book, I was escaping my current reality. And I was always living in my imagination and I always imagined that one day I was gonna be awesome,  but then in 2004, when that awesomeness was supposed to be happening in my life. Like I was an adult. Let's go . If I were to rank my life at that time, looking back, number one, being like the worst it's ever been. And then number 10, like being the best, I was miserable in almost every aspect, except the love of my family, cuz my family's awesome. And there's a lot of love there. So my significant other, I ranked that situation. Oh one. Take full responsibility for that. My social and my friends, I ranked a one. I take full responsibility for that too. There were great people in my life, but I wasn't being true to myself. I was living a very uncomfortable existence, putting up a facade and there was a lot of things underneath that facade, like just thinking that I was supposed to be a certain way, live a certain way. I'm sure you've gone through this. Like where you're just living the way you feel like you're supposed to live, and all of it is fake. Like all, like you just muster up the positivity and the smiles and you do the thing, but really on the inside, you're miserable, and you're like, "What's wrong with me? I have all of these things to be thankful for. And here I am, like just not feeling good." But it like when we're not living our truth and we're not true to who we are. It could be very miserable on the inside money. I would've ranked money. Definite one, the brokers I ever was in my life. Well actually that's not true because we were raised pretty poor. Like my parents are awesome, but they had a lot of bad luck stuff happen to them. And so, I guess I wasn't the brokes I'd ever been, but in my adult set like life, like where I was responsible for everything, I was the brokest. Physical health, I would've ranked it a one. I gained 65 pounds. Just kind of miserable there. Personal growth, I didn't know what personal growth was. I didn't know that there were cool books ...
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  • What Is Holding You Back From Conquering Your World and Sitting on Your Throne of Bliss?

    What Is Holding You Back From Conquering Your World and Sitting on Your Throne of Bliss?
    2021/12/07

    I’ll tell you something I quit that has catapulted me into action and daily fun.

    And no it’s not sugar. There is nothing wrong with sugar, just like there’s nothing wrong with driving… as long as you stay in your lane and follow some rules meant to keep you healthy and alive.

    But I digress.

    When I quit this thing, I was able to take more action, get more results in business and on the scale, enjoy my relationship, and foster amazing friendships.

    This one thing, if you keep doing it, can consistently make you miserable, sad and anxious.

    It’s….

    Having expectations.

    Of people, of the scale, of our bodies. 

    Before you call me crazy and tell me ‘but if I don’t have any expectations, then I’m settling…’ hear me out.

    With expectations, you have two outcomes: either you’re happy or you’re sad. 

    And when those expectations are placed on other people, on the scale, and on our bodies, we are likely to live our lives constantly being let down.

    Instead of expecting anything, ever, stay curious, stay thankful and keep taking action. 

    I have 3 doozy examples for you. 

    And I fully expect you to disagree with at least 2 of them, but I’m a pretty happy camper and this is how I now live my life. 

    And before I was an unhappy camper lol. 

    Listen to the episode to hear the examples, let me know if you agree or disagree!

    PS: Join me for my next free 5 Day Peppermint Mocha and Holiday Party Weight Loss Challenge where you

    Learn the top 3 Secrets to lose weight and keep it off

    🧁 without giving up your favorite foods 😔 even if you're totally defeated and feel like you've tried everything   Go to www.5day.org
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