In this episode of Untidy, Matilda and Hannah speak with Dr Victoria Thompson, a clinical psychologist based in Ōtautahi Christchurch, about the juicy (often triggering) topic of attachment theory and how it show up in dating, relating, and parenting.

Ever wondered why you keep dating the same kind of person, feel panicked when someone pulls away, or find it hard to open up? In this episode, Dr Victoria Thompson unpacks how our early relationships shape us, how our attachment style influences how we love, connect, chase, avoid and fight in our adult lives, and, how we can use this knowledge to help nurture secure kids.

Victoria shares how we can move from anxious and avoidant attachment styles, toward secure attachment in relationships and parenting, with one small step at a time.

Victoria works in private practice in Christchurch and specialises in child and adolescent mental health, eating disorders, forensic psychology, and couples therapy. She's also a new mum and brings both professional expertise and personal honesty to this powerful kōrero.

Links as mentioned in the show:

• Find Victoria online www.victoriathompsonpsychology.com
• Follow Dr Victoria Thompson on Instagrat @drvictoriathompson

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In this mini-episode of Untidy, Matty and Hannah talk to Dr Stacy Sims to break down the science around ice baths for women, the benefits of saunas, and if science backs up contrast therapy. Here’s the mini episode with all you need to know! The science says women need to do things differently. While the internet’s busy telling us to jump into freezing water, Stacy explains that women get the benefits of cold therapy at a much warmer temp of around 15°C. Ice baths? Overkill. And contrast therapy? Turns out, the research doesn’t really back it. For real results, Stacy says keep your hot and cold sessions separate, skip the suffering, and lean into what actually works for your body. Stacy also shares her top three tips for longevity. Tune in for this ‘Best bit’ with the legendary Dr Stacy Sims.

To hear the full episodes with Stacy, head to:

• Puberty, power and progress with Dr Stacy Sims on Spotify
• Puberty, power and progress with Dr Stacy Sims on Apple
• Puberty, power and progress with Dr Stacy Sims on YouTube
• Dr Stacy Sims – Courses & Resources
• Follow Dr Stacy Sims @drstacysims.
• Book: Roar by Dr Stacy Sims

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In this episode of Untidy, Matilda and Hannah speak with Theophila Pratt, a Gloriavale cult survivor, qualified paediatric occupational therapist, author, and fierce advocate for freedom and healing. Theo, formerly known as Honey Faithful, grew up in Gloriavale, an isolated and highly controlled Christian community on the West Coast. At 18, she was cast out after challenging the regime, with nothing but a suitcase, a ticket to Auckland, and little understanding of how the outside world worked.

TRIGGER WARNING: This episode includes discussion of religious trauma, psychological abuse, coercive control, childhood neglect, and sexual abuse. While we approach these topics with care and sensitivity, some content may be distressing for listeners. Please take care while listening and prioritise your wellbeing.

Theo shares what life inside Gloriavale was really like — from the oppressive rules that haunted every moment, to the calculated psychological control that deprived people of their individual identities, especially for girls and women. Theo talks about the subtle acts of rebellion that sparked her path to freedom, what it took to start again from scratch, and how she’s now helping others do the same.

Theo reflects on trauma, therapy, rage, spirituality, and walking a determined road to self-trust and reclaiming her voice and identity. Her memoir, ‘Unveiled: A Story of Surviving Gloriavale’ exposes the realities of life inside the cult and offers hope to those seeking freedom from high-control environments.

Links as mentioned in the show:

• Buy Unveiled by Theophila Pratt from https://www.theopratt.com/
• Gloriavale Leavers’ Trust: https://gloriavaleleavers.org.nz/
• Follow Theo on Instagram @lifeischoicenz
• Watch TVNZ documentary, Escaping Utopia

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