In this episode of Untidy, Matilda and Hannah speak with Dr Victoria Thompson, a clinical psychologist based in Ōtautahi Christchurch, about the juicy (often triggering) topic of attachment theory and how it show up in dating, relating, and parenting.

Ever wondered why you keep dating the same kind of person, feel panicked when someone pulls away, or find it hard to open up? In this episode, Dr Victoria Thompson unpacks how our early relationships shape us, how our attachment style influences how we love, connect, chase, avoid and fight in our adult lives, and, how we can use this knowledge to help nurture secure kids.

Victoria shares how we can move from anxious and avoidant attachment styles, toward secure attachment in relationships and parenting, with one small step at a time.

Victoria works in private practice in Christchurch and specialises in child and adolescent mental health, eating disorders, forensic psychology, and couples therapy. She's also a new mum and brings both professional expertise and personal honesty to this powerful kōrero.

Links as mentioned in the show:

• Find Victoria online www.victoriathompsonpsychology.com
• Follow Dr Victoria Thompson on Instagrat @drvictoriathompson

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In this mini-episode of Untidy, Matty and Hannah talk to Dr Stacy Sims to break down the science around ice baths for women, the benefits of saunas, and if science backs up contrast therapy. Here’s the mini episode with all you need to know! The science says women need to do things differently. While the internet’s busy telling us to jump into freezing water, Stacy explains that women get the benefits of cold therapy at a much warmer temp of around 15°C. Ice baths? Overkill. And contrast therapy? Turns out, the research doesn’t really back it. For real results, Stacy says keep your hot and cold sessions separate, skip the suffering, and lean into what actually works for your body. Stacy also shares her top three tips for longevity. Tune in for this ‘Best bit’ with the legendary Dr Stacy Sims.

To hear the full episodes with Stacy, head to:

• Puberty, power and progress with Dr Stacy Sims on Spotify
• Puberty, power and progress with Dr Stacy Sims on Apple
• Puberty, power and progress with Dr Stacy Sims on YouTube
• Dr Stacy Sims – Courses & Resources
• Follow Dr Stacy Sims @drstacysims.
• Book: Roar by Dr Stacy Sims

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In this episode of Untidy, Matilda and Hannah speak with Theophila Pratt, a Gloriavale cult survivor, qualified paediatric occupational therapist, author, and fierce advocate for freedom and healing. Theo, formerly known as Honey Faithful, grew up in Gloriavale, an isolated and highly controlled Christian community on the West Coast. At 18, she was cast out after challenging the regime, with nothing but a suitcase, a ticket to Auckland, and little understanding of how the outside world worked.

TRIGGER WARNING: This episode includes discussion of religious trauma, psychological abuse, coercive control, childhood neglect, and sexual abuse. While we approach these topics with care and sensitivity, some content may be distressing for listeners. Please take care while listening and prioritise your wellbeing.

Theo shares what life inside Gloriavale was really like — from the oppressive rules that haunted every moment, to the calculated psychological control that deprived people of their individual identities, especially for girls and women. Theo talks about the subtle acts of rebellion that sparked her path to freedom, what it took to start again from scratch, and how she’s now helping others do the same.

Theo reflects on trauma, therapy, rage, spirituality, and walking a determined road to self-trust and reclaiming her voice and identity. Her memoir, ‘Unveiled: A Story of Surviving Gloriavale’ exposes the realities of life inside the cult and offers hope to those seeking freedom from high-control environments.

Links as mentioned in the show:

• Buy Unveiled by Theophila Pratt from https://www.theopratt.com/
• Gloriavale Leavers’ Trust: https://gloriavaleleavers.org.nz/
• Follow Theo on Instagram @lifeischoicenz
• Watch TVNZ documentary, Escaping Utopia

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In this mini-episode of Untidy, Matty and Hannah talk to sex and relationships therapist, Jo Robertson, about how couples can reconnect emotionally and physically during the unsexy seasons of raising kids, working jobs, and navigating the fatigue of everyday life. Jo shares why desire doesn’t just “magically turn up at the supermarket,” how we can reframe sex as intentional intimacy, and the code words that can take a conversation from getting awkward to feeling fun.

Ever felt tapped out, touched out, or like intimacy has slipped off the priorities list? Whether you're struggling with mismatched libidos, fear of rejection, or simply feel like you're “never in the mood,” this one’s for you.

To hear the full episodes with Jo, head to:

• Sex and relationships Q&A (Part one) with Jo Robertson
• Sex and relationships Q&A (Part two) with Jo Robertson
• Navigating new sexual landscapes with Jo Robertson
• Follow Jo @jorobertson.therapy on Instagram

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In this episode of Untidy, Matty and Hannah (Bean) are together again and giddy with the excitement of being reunited, but not ruling out bringing new friends into the mix. From fluid friendships and actual bodily fluids, to traumatic office flashbacks and passive-aggressive colleagues, the chat is a glittering constellation of unmoderated carnage.

As mentioned in the show:

• Abi Mills Comedy — The co-worker that secretly hates you
• Ready for School book by My Big Moments

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In this mini-episode of Untidy, Matty and Hannah talk about what’s really on their minds — Turning into “feral dragons” with their kids, the art of repair after rupture, and why it’s not always on your preferred time schedule. There’s chat about the pressures we put on ourselves of parenting perfectly and why it’s crucial to learn how to give yourself grace and stay connected to the authenticity of your feelings.

Grab your ice cream and listen in for a good, slightly unhinged kōrero about life’s less-than-reel-worthy moments.

To hear the full conversation, head to:

• Listen to ‘Surrendering to imperfection’ on Spotify
• Listen to ‘Surrendering to imperfection’ on Apple Podcasts

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In this episode of Untidy, Matty and Hannah welcome back one of their most-loved guests, Georgia Vavasour, to take us deep into the cosmic world of Vedic astrology — or Jyotish, the ‘science of light’.

If you’ve ever wondered what the exact time of your birth might reveal about your life’s blueprint — your strengths, your ‘stuckness’, your timing, your relationships, and even your parenting, this one’s here to enlighten. Georgia, one of the world’s most experienced Vedic meditation teachers, has added Jyotish to her toolkit, and the way she deciphers charts is a lot less woo-woo and a lot more practical wisdom.

They explore what your birth chart can reveal about your soul’s journey, why some life phases feel like a slog and others feel effortless, and how we can align ourselves with planetary energy instead of constantly swimming against the tide. She also shows us how our children’s charts can reveal exactly what they need from us, emotionally, energetically, and spiritually, and why this knowledge can be an absolute game-changer in how we show up as parents.

They obviously talk dating and if it’s okay to finagle someone’s birth time out of them ... And, Matty has her chart read live on air (for the very first time), and we find out why she and Hannah are so freakishly well matched as ‘podcast partners’.

Links from the episode:

• Georgia Vavasour Vedic Meditation website
• Georgia Vavasour Vedic Astrology website
• Follow Georgia on Instagram

Previous episodes with Georgia:

• Not ‘just a mum’ with Georgia Vavasour
• Q&A with meditation teacher, Georgia Vavasour

If you’re enjoying Untidy, the best way to show your support is by tapping the ‘+ follow’ button in your podcast app and subscribing on YouTube! That way, fresh episodes will always be ready and waiting for you. Help us to keep building this supportive community — share an episode with a mate, and chuck us a 5-star review — it helps more people find our Untidy, unfiltered, and relatable chats. Thank you for listening, contributing and supporting this independent production! We’re grateful to have you here! — Hannah & Matty xx

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In this mini-episode of Untidy, Steph Campbell shares her extraordinary journey to heal her daughter’s extreme food intolerances. Steph found herself facing a stark reality: she would have to live indefinitely on only three foods for breakfast, lunch and dinner — lamb, leeks and green beans. Even the smallest mistake, as she breastfed her baby daughter, sent them to hospital. Desperate for a solution when no one else could help, Steph discovered the power of a supportive community of mums, and gut healing through anaerobic fermentation — and within just weeks, everything changed.

Off the back of Steph’s life-changing discovery, she founded Clover Ferments, a company born from a mother’s love, sheer grit and determination! Steph’s story is filled with hope for anyone struggling with allergies, gut issues, or feeling let down by the traditional system.

To hear the full conversation with Steph and for links mentioned in the episode, head to:

• Listen on Spotify
• Listen on Apple Podcasts
• Clover Ferments website
• Follow Clover Ferments on Instagram

If you’re enjoying Untidy, the best way to show your support is by tapping the ‘+ follow’ button in your podcast app and subscribing on YouTube! That way, fresh episodes will always be ready and waiting for you. Help us to keep building this supportive community — share an episode with a mate, and chuck us a 5-star review — it helps more people find our Untidy, unfiltered, and relatable chats. Thank you for listening, contributing and supporting this independent production! We’re grateful to have you here! — Hannah & Matty xx

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