Today, John and Shaun open up about emotional honesty, the fear of being too much, and the art of letting others take care of you. From cock ring experiments and therapist breakthroughs to growing up without unconditional love, they explore the tangled roots of worthiness and connection. Also: the Love Drive podcast is making a comeback, and the house cleaner found the cock rings.

They dive into what it means to feel safe in romantic vulnerability, Shaun’s fear of scaring people away with his sadness, and how early family dynamics shape our adult intimacy patterns. Shaun gets real about doubting his long-term relationship potential and shares his top five non-negotiables for a lasting partnership—including space to be silly, emotional resilience, and yes, vanilla sex.

Dr. MC McDonald joins the conversation with reflections on The Joy Reset, her new book about why joy isn't a luxury - it's a vital part of healing. They talk about survivor's guilt, the duty of joy, and how to support friends in messy relationships without playing savior. There’s also a candid take on how porn misleads us, why advocating for your desires matters, and what happens when your therapist tells you,"there’s a little me inside of you." It's tender, funny, and full of unexpected wisdom.

Resources Mentioned:

Follow Dr. MaryCatherine McDonald on → Instagram

Pre-order or grab a copy of her new book → The Joy Reset

Also check out her first book → Unbroken: The Trauma Response Is Never Wrong

Curious about exploring your desires? Try the Yes, No, Maybe list by Autostraddle

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Today, John and Shaun get real about singlehood, morning moods, and what it means to wake up feeling alone. From retirement fund fears and post-fire perspective shifts to questioning whether AI can truly touch hearts, they explore how life—and money—quietly reshapes us. Also on the table: LA as the land of opportunity and the timeless wisdom of Winnie the Pooh.

They dive into why we’re drawn to emotionally unavailable partners, the love we grew up with, and what it means to truly be seen. Shaun opens up about feeling like the one who always reaches out, while John reflects on letting go of career attachments. It’s intimate, a little raw, and full of moments that stay with you long after the episode ends.

Feeling stuck, heartbroken, or just over the same old patterns? Join The Power of One — a 7-day, $7 challenge to help you stop spiraling, reconnect with yourself, and build real momentum toward the life (and love) you actually want. Through daily prompts, mantras, and mindset shifts, you'll move from feeling stuck or heartbroken to grounded and empowered. Each day unlocks a new emotional breakthrough:

Day 1 – The Mirror: Get honest with yourself and assess where your self-connection stands.

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Today, John and Shaun ride the roller coaster of texting anxiety, threesomes, slippery self-care hacks, and the occasional social media meltdown. They break down why a simple “Good morning” text can feel like a high-stakes game and the many unexpected uses of coconut and olive oils.

Special guest, Lydia from Face Yoga by Lydia, joins to prove that, yes, your face needs a workout too. Expect expert guidance from Lydia and some endearingly awkward attempts from John and Shaun as they stretch and sculpt their way to eternal youth.

The duo also reflects on the emotional toll of online backlash and how it can unexpectedly get under your skin. And finally, they unpack the "Blowing Brian" story—plus a few very personal confessions along the way.

A little humor, a little wisdom, and a lot of things you can’t un-hear. Buckle up.

Resources Mentioned:

Face Yoga with Lydia → faceyogawithlydia.com

Kripalu Love Camp → kripalu.org/presenters-programs/love-camp

The Instagram post that caused a stir → instagram.com/p/DHt6dbiyzQN

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Today, John and Shaun dive into the orgasm gap—why so many women aren’t reaching the finish line in the bedroom. They break down the importance of communication in sex, myths around male performance, and why “homie, your dick’s not enough.”

They’re joined by guest, Sabrina Zohar, who shares her insights on modern dating, picky partners, and how unrealistic checklists keep people single. Plus, is blue balls a real thing? Should every guy read She Comes First? And why sometimes, you just need to tap out.

People & Resources Mentioned:

• Follow Sabrina on Instagram HERE
• Find out more about Sabrina HERE
• She Comes First by Ian Kerner
• Good Enough Mother – Donald Winnicott

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Today, John and Shaun talk about the struggles of aging, navigating dietary changes, and the unexpected joys of pooping on command. They also discuss the concept of "optimistic nihilism" and the blurred lines between platonic and romantic relationships.

They share thoughts on speed dating, social media jealousy, and whether liking photos online is harmless or a sign of "leaky energy." Plus, Shaun opens up about his ski trip, his new “ski wife,” and the complications of modern relationships.

People & Social Links:

Dayan Kolev on Instagram: @dayan.kole

Episode Resources & Events:

• Love Better (Forced Fun) retreat: https://www.tatretreats.com/lovebetter
• The Feels – A unique dating event experience: https://catchthefeels.co/
• John & Shaun’s Spring Retreat – April 18-20, their last retreat together in California before John's move to Costa Rica. Sign up HERE

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Today, John and Shaun talk about hair insecurities, moving to Costa Rica, and the challenge of making big life changes. They also discuss dating in Los Angeles, social anxiety, and the importance of stepping out of your comfort zone.

As they look ahead, John and Shaun brainstorm ways to expand the podcast, from guest appearances on other shows to adding expert guests of their own. Shaun shares insights from a podcast agent he met at a recent party, and they reflect on how networking (even when you don’t feel like it) can open unexpected doors.

Plus, they answer a listener's question about struggling with loneliness after divorce and offer advice on rebuilding a fulfilling life.

Resources Mentioned:

The No BS Guide to Writing & Selling Your Book – John’s step-by-step program to help you turn your ideas into a published book.

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Today, John and Shaun talk about internal misogyny, dating older women, how they lost their virginity, and starting over. They also answer two listeners’ questions: how do you know when you’re ready to have kids, and how do you learn to trust yourself and your intuition?

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Today, John and Shaun talk about different styles of communication, the American dream, the meaning behind tattoos, and relocating outside of Los Angeles. They also answer two listeners’ questions: what was the skateboarding life like for you guys, and what’s the best way to disclose to someone that I have herpes?

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