In this episode of the Wet Dreamz Podcast, hosts Jose Gonzalez and Dr. Brad Hinman react to street interviews about why people watch porn, uncovering various reasons such as trauma, disconnection, and unmet personal needs. They explore how social media can serve as a gateway to porn and discuss the chemical stimulation that makes it addictive. Brad addresses common misconceptions, highlighting that porn use often stems from emotional voids, not sexual dissatisfaction.

The episode also delves into the religious shame associated with porn and stresses the importance of age-appropriate sexual education to prevent future addiction. They examine different types of trauma, like sexual abuse and neglect, that contribute to porn addiction. Emphasizing the importance of meaningful relationships and open conversations about sex, they recommend resources like "Good Pictures, Bad Pictures." The hosts wrap up by discussing the secrecy, shame, and loneliness often tied to porn consumption and advocate for societal changes to address these issues.

Timestamps:

00:00 Reacting to street interview video about sex.

05:00 Men often misinterpret their own sexual abuse.

10:01 Social media can indirectly lead to porn.

11:17 Concerning trend: TikTok-style brief porn videos.

14:22 Religious shame impacts interactions with pornography.

17:16 Clients with porn issues love and value partners.

21:42 Skewed view: Need to fix/change partner.

25:28 Discuss good vs. bad pictures calmly with children.

27:22 Discussing wet dreams stickers for school water bottles.

32:45 People are uncomfortable sitting in silence alone.

36:21 Secrets often kept to protect, not deceive.

37:16 Lack of deep relationships leads to isolation.

41:51 We welcome viewer questions and reactions online.

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In Season 2, Episode 5 of the Wet Dreamz Podcast, hosts Jose Gonzalez and Brad Hinman explore the intricate process of rebuilding trust and intimacy after infidelity. They debunk the myth that cheaters always want to leave their partners and underscore the importance of patience and slow-paced physical intimacy. The episode emphasizes the need to avoid pressuring a partner into sex, manage the harmful effects of compulsive porn use, and maintain open communication about sexual desires. Strategies for emotional reconnection include planning non-sexual date nights, learning new activities together, and setting aside time for meaningful relationship discussions.

Jose and Brad highlight the necessity of validating feelings, being honest, and taking responsibility to rebuild trust. They stress that mutual effort and understanding can ultimately strengthen the relationship after infidelity. The hosts also include a disclaimer, reminding listeners that the content is for general information and entertainment, not professional advice. Engaging the audience, they encourage sharing experiences and thoughts on infidelity and relationships. Timestamps 00:00 Rebuilding trust after infidelity, intimacy after cheating. 04:17 Initial fallout, emotional settling, long-term intimacy decline. 07:46 Rebuilding trust after emotional turmoil in relationships. 10:16 Men must take initiative in relationships. 14:42 Acknowledging change and improving relationships to prevent infidelity. 19:29 Clients hesitate due to fear of hurt. 22:20 Validate and appreciate, even for small actions. 23:35 Honesty and discomfort key in relationships. 27:46 Heterosexual guys lack frame of reference. 30:45 Bonding over discomfort, scheduled relationship talks recommended. 33:20 Seeking intimacy over sex in relationships advice. 38:58 Respect their pace; don't rush reconciliation. 41:26 Seeking input on infidelity experiences for podcast. LinkTree: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.linktr.ee/wetdreamzpodcasthcs⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Facebook: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.facebook.com/wetdreamzpodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ TikTok: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.tiktok.com/@wet.dreamz.podcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Music from #Uppbeat (free for Creators!): ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://uppbeat.io/t/moire/new-life⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ License code: 0SWIN8YAF7EIY6YI

5 Part Series (Part 4) In Episode 14 of the Wet Dreamz Podcast titled "Initial Fallout," hosts Brad Hinman and Jose Gonzalez explore the emotional chaos following infidelity in relationships. They discuss:

- The injured partner's search for validation and the offending partner's shame.

- Trust issues leading to extreme monitoring behaviors, which can exacerbate guilt and shame.

- The need for constructive trust rebuilding through empathy and understanding, rather than surveillance.

- The motivations behind behaviors post-infidelity, emphasizing self-protection rather than malice from the injured partner.

- The challenge of rebuilding trust amid societal pressures for quick fixes and differing gender perspectives on processing infidelity.

The episode underscores the importance of mutual listening and working together to achieve either joint or individual happiness. It concludes with a teaser for the next episode on rebuilding trust. This is part of a five-part series focusing on navigating the complex aftermath of infidelity.

Timestamps:

00:00 Series covers infidelity and rebuilding trust.

03:53 Partners cheat due to lack of validation.

07:07 Understanding temptation and love despite infidelity.

12:24 Watching porn doesn't mean someone will cheat.

16:58 Men feel shame but also seek relief.

17:54 Describing a communication breakdown with an analogy.

22:59 Listening and responding to partner for happiness.

24:08 Key to overcoming infidelity is togetherness.

30:10 Women multitask, men focus on one thing.

31:46 Struggle for support after partner's therapy. Hurtful.

33:46 Confiding in others can aid in recovery.

37:39 Rebuilding trust in a relationship through phone-checking.

40:22 Victim self-blames, seeks to not be fooled.

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5 Part Series (Part 3) In this episode of the Wet Dreamz Podcast we, your hosts Jose Gonzalez and Brad Hinman, dive into the complex world of relationship boundaries and infidelity. We explore problematic sexual behaviors such as compulsive porn use, online sexting, and emotional affairs, shedding light on the emotional and psychological reasons behind these actions.

We highlight the importance of affirmation, respect, and open communication within relationships, and we dispel common myths about infidelity being due to dissatisfaction or lack of love. Instead, we emphasize personal responsibility and the necessity for individualized boundaries in each relationship.

This episode is part of our mini-season on infidelity, offering you deeper insights into the dynamics of cheating and relationship health.

Timestamps:

00:00 Online and in-person behaviors, two populations.

04:48 Emotional cheating involves sharing feelings with others.

08:24 Each relationship has its own boundaries.

11:12 Men act based on lack of affirmation.

16:26 Men crave validation and affirmations for choices.

20:08 Analyze personal choices by examining surrounding systems.

20:53 Choose a less resistant path for change.

24:53 Porn reinforces viewer's sense of affirmation/validation.

30:26 Some have started affairs, but minority acted.

34:01 Separating romantic and sexual attraction in relationships.

35:22 Compartmentalizing behavior to justify actions in relationships.

38:35 Established baseline, work up from there.

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5 Part Series (Part 2)

On the Wet Dreamz Podcast episode "Daydreams or Betrayal: The Role of Sexual Fantasies in Fidelity," hosts Brad Hinman and Jose Gonzalez explore the complex role of sexual fantasies in monogamous relationships. They challenge the idea that these fantasies equate to a desire for real-world action, offering reassurance that imagining scenarios is a natural part of human psychology, akin to harmless daydreaming.

The hosts encourage open communication with partners about sexual fantasies to alleviate shame and fears of rejection. They clarify that while having fantasies is not cheating, acting on them in ways that violate relationship boundaries could be. Brad and Jose also promote seeking help from sex therapists for those struggling to navigate these waters, highlighting the importance of speaking about these often taboo subjects to find relief and maintain healthy relationships.

Ending the episode, they invite continued discussion and contributions from listeners, reminding everyone of the ongoing conversations around sexuality on the Wet Dreamz Podcast.

Timestamps:

00:00 Discussion on sexual fantasies and pornography's impact.

05:17 Understanding and controlling sexual fantasies in males.

07:41 Men feeling shame over non-masculine sexual fantasies.

12:51 Most people don't discuss their sexual fantasies.

15:49 Uncommon sexual fantasies can lead to secrecy.

18:52 83.4% of men think about cheating.

19:56 Imagining, obsessing, and acting on sexual fantasies.

26:09 Understanding the client's extreme fantasies during therapy.

26:57 Consider other appealing aspects of the situation.

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5 EPISODE INFIDELITY SERIES

In Episode 11 of the Wet Dreamz Podcast, we explore the contentious issue of pornography and its impact on relationships. They delve into why some view porn as a form of infidelity, with a surprising 74% considering it a betrayal. As we tackle the complex emotional responses of guilt, shame, and anger that can stem from porn use, the hosts highlight the importance of empathy and communication to understand and respect each partner's perspective.

The episode serves as the inaugural discussion for a new mini-season centered on the hot-button topic of "Cheating and Infidelity," with a promise of future episodes to address sexual fantasies, problematic sexual behavior, healing, and — crucially — how to reignite intimacy after infidelity rocks a relationship. Brad, equipped with his professional background in counseling and therapy, provides invaluable insights throughout the conversation.

Timestamps:

00:00 Viewing pornography can be considered cheating.

05:19 Porn-viewing men seek ideal partner fantasy.

10:04 Struggle to convince partner of commitment and trust.

10:58 Guys often deny watching porn when caught.

15:59 Sexual energy with partner, not porn, important.

19:14 Cheating depends on each person's perspective.

24:01 Relationship issues and energy direction in cheating.

27:07 Excited to explore sexual fantasies and infidelity aftermath.

29:01 Empathy and understanding are important in relationships.

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We're doing things a little differently this season. We will be doing 5 episode mini-seasons. This season we will dive into the controversial topic of infidelity. We're excited to switch things up, and we're always open to feedback and answering any questions you may have. Thanks for the support!

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This is the FINAL EPISODE of Season 1 of the Wet Dreamz Podcast. Episode 10, "Fake it till you make it: Debunking Male Sex Myths (Part 2)," we tackle the stereotypes that affect men's emotional health in relationships and sexual experiences. We dive into the societal pressures that force men to hide their emotions and to appear perpetually confident and knowledgeable, addressing the harm this causes in personal connections.

We also discuss the challenges men face in expressing emotions, the destructive pursuit of perfection, and the consequences of pretending to have all the answers. We provide insights into overcoming these pressures by allowing vulnerability, fostering open communication, and giving oneself the grace to learn from mistakes.

We then wrap up with updates on upcoming changes to the podcast's format and reflect on the growth and success of the show's first season. This episode offers a blend of expert advice and relatable discussions to encourage men to live more authentically. LinkTree: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.linktr.ee/wetdreamzpodcasthcs⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

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Timestamps:

00:00 Men in Midwest America are expected to know.

06:17 Expectation for perfection in therapy creates pressure.

07:48 Counseling progress isn't always straightforward as expected.

12:25 Clients lie about long-term problematic behaviors.

16:15 Men should change positions when masturbating.

18:51 Permission to fail is antidote to perfectionism.

22:52 "Failure means the end, but it's not."

25:03 Overcoming perfectionism: giving yourself permission to fail.

27:25 Faking emotions and disconnect in sexual experiences.

32:16 The pressure and confusion of saying "I love you" can be weird and complicated.

35:47 Men not allowed to feel hurt, but should communicate.

38:58 Express emotions with others to grow emotionally.

41:46 Express affection through touch, compliments, and appreciation.