Welcome David Nordel to the show. After a distinguished career in the Air Force, he developed his superpowers of transitions and mental health challenges of veterans. He has written two books on leadership. We did discuss the similarities between veteran PTSD and men going through a divorce. Some of the parallels are interesting. Discussions of quitting in the face of adversity, tools to embrace personal growth, preparing for change, and recognizing the value in others are all broached in this podcast. It was like the two Davids were reuniting after a long friendship. Thanks, David. Hope to get you back on the podcast. I’ve got a ton of questions we haven’t even touched on yet. Talk to David soon!

Other topics:

Why listening is so important

Ways to effectively navigate life, family and friendships

The value of time

Savoring each moment

Deeper awareness of our surroundings

Hidden potential within

Many people hear, but only a few listen

Happy squirrels

Run your life like a CEO

Harness the energy of PTSD and moral injury, flip the polarity, and use it constructively.

Pain and fear make change hard, sometimes impossible

Check out egos

When we are hurt, we want to transmit

70/30 me time

Good quitting

Recreate yourself from the inside out

Handling hard better

Recovery from your failure and move forward

Divorce and moral injury run congruent

EVERYTHING DAVID NORDEL

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Well fellas, another great podcast after no expectations. Matt knocks it out of the park for my men struggling with divorce recovery. His advice, thoughts and teachings are just what some of you need right now. Matt is the happiness expert and drops some important knowledge with that subject on us with this podcast. Discussions of happiness is a skill, journaling, everlasting vs fleeting happiness, change is life, self-destructive thoughts and men don’t cry are all broached in this episode. In half an hour, we only touch the surface of his superpower and will get him back on the show. Thanks Matt

Additional Subjects:

8 primary moods that get in the way of our happiness

Victim mode

We choose every emotion we are experiencing

Take responsibility

Gratitude

Happiness blueprint

Flip the script

Humility

Rate your friends from one to ten

self -care and happiness

Hope and happiness

If you want a better present, get a better and bigger future

Everything Matt O’Neill

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You never know how a podcast interview will turn out with someone you’ve just met. I take a chance every time I set one up. But this podcast session with Eric did not disappoint. We did everything but cry (maybe next time) in his quest to help my men over 40 with their divorce recovery issues. Eric is a certified counselor with years of experience in treating trauma, addiction, depression, grief and other concerns. Discussions of Acronyms, self-love and self-compassion, Survival mode, setbacks, four types of bouncing (back), and grief are all touched upon in this podcast.

Other topics:

Kindsight and hindsight

Judgement and stigmas

Healthy boundaries

The mind is busy trying to distinguish between perceived and real threats

Exercise

What do I value?

What are my needs?

Community-based connections

Applying martial arts to addiction/recovery

Allow yourself to grieve

Behaviors are verbs, people are nouns

Able to talk about the scabs but the scars are too fresh

Preferences

Eric's Contact Info and Website

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My men over 40 do not want to miss this episode. Dr. Leit drops some basic old-school knowledge that we can all apply somewhere in our lives. Her no-nonsense approach to dealing with loss and conflict is incredible. Interviewing her was like two friends having coffee. It was so much fun - before, during and after. Discussions of never staying for the kids, divorce is losing control, living in conflict, second generational divorcee, weaponizing the kids and AI/relationship are all covered in this session. Gotta get Doc back again. So many questions I wasn’t able to ask this time. Next time for sure!

Other Topics:

Can I stand by myself?

Doc’s 4 ‘F’s’

-fight, fight, fawn and freeze

Parenting separately

The magnifying glass and the mirror

Write your curiosity playlist

Nitpicking desire to control

Using the kids as pawns

Common sense

Be authentic

Dysfunctional household

Be accountable in a loving way

Dr. Etel Leit.com

-4 Best Selling books

-Sessions, Workshops, Media and Tips

SignShine

- Communication with your children

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I’ve been waiting for the right moment to record this special episode. We were recording the 183rd episode of Divorce Devil Podcast yesterday and I surprised Rachel with the request to do an episode on DPTSP, and she quickly jumped on the chance without hesitation. I just wanted a few things that men over 40 could probably improve with going through a divorce from a woman’s perspective. And, where did she go first?? I should have known d*ck pics! But, surprisingly, the podcast gets much better from there. Listen intently to Rachel’s points and see if you can improve on any of them. Thanks for listening…

Topics of:

Don’t go back for sex

No unsolicited d*ck pics

Be fair

Concentrate on your household

Jack in the Box Dad

Rule and boundaries

No emotions in a text

Do go out for blood

Don’t use the kids as pawns

Pocket p*ssy

Don’t send mixed signals

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Where do I start without giving away the contents from the title? Welcome, Chantal to the podcast. Her book, RAISE YOUR LOVE SIGNAL, deals with some of the challenges men over 40 man and/or will encounter during or after their divorce. Her teachings are just for a new significant other - but it works with friends, coworkers, and you kiddos. Everyone needs and should give and receive love. Discussions of being sensitive, dating allows you practice your skills, dating for a result, be available, mindfulness, managing the curveballs with tools, invest time, practice self-love, and it is hard for men to ask for help are all surfaced in this episode. Chantal has a definite superpower: raising your love signal with this show. Thanks Chantal!

More Topics:

Develop your communication

Take ownership

Admit when you f*ck up

Hold each other accountable

Build fireworks over time

Stupid superficial things

Can I sustain this long-term?

Seduction mode then get lazy

Chasing love

Dealbreakers

Stepping stones to the right one

Creating a safe space

Listen to the red flags

The art of modern dating

Chantal’s Website

Chantal’s Instagram

Chantal’s Facebook

Chantal’s TikTok

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Where do I start? What does a divorced or divorcing gay man over 40 have in common with a divorced or divorcing straight man? After interviewing Karl Dunn - quite a bit. Karl comes to us to discuss the plight of gay men's divorce - with quite a bit of similarities and few differences. His ability to form a special bond with some of his new-found friends at work is unique. Both sets of men basically have some of the same issues and complexities that encompass divorce.

This episode includes discussions of living in an artist collective, self-love, the elusive pot of gold, and Marian’s Law. We have to get Karl back for part two, for I think we only scratched the surface. Thanks, Karl.

Topics of;

• Regret

• Forgive yourself

• Master your aloneness

• Divorce law is written for men, women and children

• There is no protocol

• Divorce reform as a mental health issue

• Carvana Tower commercial

• The marriage didn’t make him. His divorce did

• Beating yourself

• Repeating the same patterns

• The elephant in the room

• Communication vs Respect

• Anger is not required

• I am enough being alone

• Expecting and rehearsing things that happen in your life

• Rainbow divorce

ALL THINGS KARL

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Welcome Jonathan Steele to the show. Being a divorce attorney, he has seen the whole gambit of the same old and the new old in his career. Discussions of narcissism and gaslighting, divorce law misconceptions, parenting time, not leaving the home, being organized, and not bad-mouthing your ex. But, what intrigued me the most was his cybersecurity element of divorce. It was so fascinating. This is not just your ordinary lawyer vs. divorce recovery podcast.

Also Topics on:

The power imbalance in the couple

Lawyers cost more than a therapist

Fight for parenting time

Frequent flyer

Welcoming good lawyers

Mediation

Concentrate on being the best father you can be

Two happy homes are better than one unhappy one

Get petty with pets

Parenting time with pets

Full disclosure

Children may want to blame themselves for the divorce

Parenting comes with experience

Never stay for the kids

Beermann Law Office Website

Steele Fortress - Cybersecurity

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