💔 Divorce can feel like the end of everything, but it doesn’t have to be. In this powerful episode of the “Don’t Pick the Scab Podcast,” host David Marcus Webb sits down with Jody Bruns, founder of the Divorce Lending Association and a pioneer in divorce mortgage planning. With over 35 years of experience in finance and real estate, Jody has helped thousands of professionals and families navigate the complexities of divorce with clarity, strategy, and compassion. 🚀

Jody’s personal journey through divorce inspired her mission to educate others, create innovative solutions, and empower families to make smart financial decisions during one of life’s toughest transitions. She’s trained nearly 10,000 professionals and written a national certification for divorce mortgage planning, transforming how divorcing couples handle real estate and finances.

🏡 Key Takeaways from This Episode:

• Why keeping the family home may hurt more than it helps.

• How emotions could derail your financial stability (and how to avoid it).

• The biggest myths about real estate during divorce—and why they could cost you.

• Why “legal options” don’t always align with “mortgage options.”

• How divorce planning can set you up for success, not stress.

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Jody also shares real-life stories of people who turned their post-divorce lives around by embracing strategy over emotion. Learn how one mom avoided becoming “house poor” and how another client avoided costly mistakes by understanding the relationship between divorce agreements and mortgage qualifications.

📘 About Jody Bruns:

Jody is the author of "A House Divided" and an expert in family law, tax planning, and finance. She’s dedicated to helping people see divorce not as the end, but as an opportunity for a brighter, more secure future.

🔥 Why This Episode Is a Must-Listen for Men Over 40:

Whether you’re keeping the house, selling it, or unsure of the next step, this episode is packed with actionable advice to help you navigate the financial realities of divorce. Stop relying on Google for answers that may be wrong—get the insider knowledge you need to move forward with confidence.

💡 Pro Tip: Don’t let emotions cloud your judgment. Treat your divorce like a business decision to protect your future.

📣 Join the Conversation!

What’s the biggest challenge you’ve faced (or are facing) in your divorce journey? Drop your thoughts in the comments below—we’d love to hear your story and help you move forward. 👇

🔔 Don’t forget to LIKE AND SUBSCRIBE so you never miss an episode of the “Don’t Pick the Scab Podcast.” Your recovery starts here! 💪

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Are you a man over 40 struggling to rebuild your life after divorce? You’re not alone. In this episode of Don’t Pick the Scab Podcast, host David sits down with Sabrina Trobak, a registered clinical counselor and author of Not Good Enough: Understanding Your Core Belief in Anxiety, to explore the raw truths about mental health, trauma, and healing after divorce.

Sabrina, with over 20 years of experience in counseling and psychology, shares her expert advice on the core beliefs that often leave men feeling “not good enough” after a breakup. 💔 She dives into how suppressed emotions, negative coping mechanisms (like anger, substance use, or workaholism), and past trauma fuel cycles of inadequacy and anxiety. But it doesn’t stop there—Sabrina provides actionable strategies to break free from these patterns so you can rebuild your confidence, self-worth, and life.

👉 Highlights from this episode include:

• The 3 most common core beliefs men face after divorce 💡

• How to identify and replace negative coping mechanisms 🛑

• Why men suppress emotions—and how to feel them safely 🙌

• The power of mindfulness and self-compassion in recovery 🧘

• How past trauma manifests in anxiety and feelings of failure 🔄

• Tips on co-parenting when you can’t control what happens at your ex’s house 👨‍👦‍👦

Sabrina also discusses the importance of self-care, gratitude, and building community as essential tools for healing. Whether you’re navigating the challenges of starting over, co-parenting, or dating again, this episode is packed with insights, advice, and support tailored specifically for men over 40.

💬 Join the conversation! What’s your biggest challenge in divorce recovery? Drop a comment below, and let’s talk about it. Your story matters, and you might inspire someone else on their journey.

🔗 Find Sabrina online:

• Website: trobakholistic.org

• Facebook & YouTube: Trobak Holistic Counseling

• Instagram: @NGE_trobak

• TikTok: @NGE_core_belief

• LinkedIn: Sabrina Trobak
  Check out her book, Not Good Enough: Understanding Your Core Belief and Anxiety, for more life-changing insights. 🌟

💪 Remember: Healing takes time, but you don’t have to do it alone. Subscribe to the channel for more content on divorce recovery, self-worth, and mental health for men over 40.

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Feeling stuck after divorce? You're not alone. In this episode of the "Don't Pick the Scab Podcast," host David Webb welcomes Dr. Hana Kabela-Gala, a business professor turned transformational neuro coach, to discuss practical strategies for men over 40 to regain confidence, let go of guilt, and reset their lives.

Dr. Hana specializes in helping high achievers break free from limiting beliefs, overthinking, and mental gridlock using her groundbreaking Rapid Transformational Neuro Coaching (RTNC) method. Through a powerful combination of neuroscience, hypnosis, and mindset hacks, she helps men overcome the emotional chaos of divorce and build a stronger, more fulfilling future.

What You'll Learn in This Episode:

✔️ Why traditional talk therapy often doesn’t work for men—and what does

✔️ How hypnosis can help you rewire your brain and shift deep-rooted beliefs

✔️ The surprising science behind overthinking and how to stop it

✔️ Practical tools to rebuild your self-esteem and identity after divorce

✔️ How to find purpose and joy in the next chapter of your life

Dr. Hana shares personal insights, client success stories, and actionable tips designed specifically for men navigating the emotional rollercoaster of divorce. From resetting your mindset to practical steps like journaling, building connections, and rediscovering your passions, this episode is packed with valuable advice.

Key Quotes from the Episode:

💬 “Change your beliefs, and you change your behavior.”

💬 “Men are action-biased. Sitting and talking doesn’t feel efficient—but there’s a better way to heal.”

💬 “Self-love isn’t egotistical—it’s the foundation for creating something great.”

Why Listen to This Episode?

If you’re feeling stuck, overwhelmed, or unsure how to move forward after divorce, this episode is your roadmap to recovery. Discover how to unlock your subconscious, ditch the guilt, and rebuild your confidence with proven strategies that work.

🤔 What’s Your Biggest Takeaway?

We’d love to hear from you! Share your thoughts in the comments:

❓ What part of the discussion resonated most with you?

❓ Have you tried any of these techniques, and what worked for you?

👇 Don’t forget to like and subscribe so you never miss an episode that helps you take control of your life after divorce! Share this episode with someone who needs it—they’ll thank you later.

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Are you a man over 40 struggling to recover after a divorce? You're not alone, and this episode of the "Don't Pick the Scab Podcast" is here to guide you through the challenges and opportunities of post-divorce life. 🌟💔

In this episode, David sits down with the inspiring Elizabeth Jane, a transformative speaker, author, and healer, who shares her personal journey of self-discovery after a 25-year marriage ended abruptly. From her profound experiences in an Indian ashram to the tools she developed in her book, "Free and First: Unlocking Your Ultimate Life", Elizabeth offers a roadmap for healing, self-worth, and personal growth.

What You'll Learn in This Episode:

✅ The ABC Method: Acknowledge, Allow, Accept – A practical toolkit for processing emotions and setting boundaries.

✅ The Importance of Self-Worth: Why rebuilding your confidence is essential for attracting fulfilling relationships and opportunities.

✅ Forgiveness & Letting Go: How to move past anger and resentment to create space for joy and peace.

✅ Mindfulness Practices: Simple, actionable ways to stop dwelling on the past and start living in the present.

✅ Creative Healing Tools: How art, poetry, and hobbies can help you process grief and reclaim your identity.

Elizabeth also addresses common struggles men face, such as co-parenting in high-conflict situations and knowing when you're ready to start dating again. Her practical tips and heartfelt insights will leave you feeling empowered and ready to take the next step toward your ultimate life. 🚀✨

Key Quotes from the Episode:

💬 "Stop numbing yourself and start feeling your emotions. That's where the healing begins."

💬 "Forgiveness isn’t condoning—it’s liberating yourself from the chains of resentment."

💬 “When you work on yourself, everyone around you benefits. Your energy radiates outward.”

Whether you're navigating co-parenting challenges or rediscovering your joy, this episode gives you actionable advice to reclaim your power and rebuild your life.

Resources:

🔗 Elizabeth Jane’s Website: www.elizabethjane.com.au

📘 Elizabeth’s Book: Free and First: Unlocking Your Ultimate Life – Available on Amazon!

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💔 Divorce is one of life's toughest challenges, especially for men over 40. On this episode of the "Don’t Pick the Scab" podcast, David sits down with filmmaker, producer, and storyteller John Wayne S. III, who shares his deeply personal journey of rebuilding his life after divorce. From navigating co-parenting struggles to rediscovering his own identity, John’s story is raw, real, and relatable for any man trying to find his footing again.

🎥 With over 20 years of experience in filmmaking, John opens up about how his creativity was stifled during the divorce process and how he found his way back to his passion. He shares the emotional toll of losing his sense of self and how he overcame the challenges of starting over—both professionally and personally.

👨‍👧 Co-parenting struggles? John dives into the ups and downs of raising children post-divorce while balancing a demanding career. He candidly discusses the importance of putting children first, even when the relationship with your ex is strained. His mantra? "Love your kids more than you hate your ex."

❤️ Dating after divorce can feel like a minefield, and John doesn’t hold back on sharing his missteps and lessons learned. From awkward first dates to figuring out what he truly wants in a partner, his insights will resonate with any man stepping back into the dating world after a long-term marriage.

📢 Key Takeaways in This Episode:

• How to rediscover your identity after divorce 🌟

• The importance of self-care and advocating for your health 🩺

• Tips on co-parenting when the relationship with your ex is rocky 👨‍👧‍👦

• Why "the first one out of the gate" after divorce often isn’t the one 💔

• How to approach dating and relationships after 40 ❤️

  
  

💡 Whether you're a divorced dad looking to rebuild your bond with your kids, a man trying to rediscover his passions, or someone dipping their toes back into the dating pool, this episode is filled with wisdom and authentic advice that will help you take the next step forward.

🎙️ Tune in for heartfelt insights, practical advice, and a reminder that you are not alone in this journey. Divorce doesn’t have to define you—it can be the catalyst for a new chapter of growth and fulfillment.

🔥 What’s your biggest challenge after divorce? Let us know in the comments below! Share your story or tips for others navigating life after 40. Don’t forget to like, subscribe, and hit the notification bell so you never miss an episode. Let’s build a community of men helping men thrive after divorce! 💪

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Welcome to the Don’t Pick the Scab Podcast, where we tackle the raw and real challenges faced by men over 40 navigating life after divorce. Hosted by David, this episode dives deep into healing, masculinity, and rediscovering your identity with poet, philosopher, and advocate Augustus Vaughn.

📚 What You'll Learn in This Episode:

✅ What is Stoicism? Discover how the ancient philosophy of self-control can transform your emotional recovery.

✅ Why Men Struggle Post-Divorce: The societal programming that undermines masculinity—and how to break free.

✅ Practical Steps to Heal: Learn how to take control of your emotions, rebuild your identity, and avoid falling into the same traps again.

✅ The Role of Creativity in Healing: How poetry and writing can help you process pain and rediscover purpose.

✅ The Importance of Brotherhood: Why building a community of strong, like-minded men is essential for recovery.

🎙️ Augustus Vaughn shares his unique journey—from growing up in Watts, CA, to finding purpose through stoicism and poetry. He also explores actionable strategies for men to rebuild their lives, including how to channel anger constructively and use spirituality for healing—regardless of religious background.

💡 Key Takeaways for Men Over 40:

• Embrace Stoicism: Learn to control what’s in your power and let go of what isn’t.

• Reset Your Identity: Divorce is not the end—it’s a chance to start a new chapter.

• Build a Support Network: Community and brotherhood can be life-changing tools for healing.

• Use Creativity as Therapy: Writing, poetry, or creative outlets can help you process emotions and grow.

• Focus on Legacy: Live for the generations before you and the ones to come.

🔥 Feeling stuck or overwhelmed? This episode offers encouragement, actionable advice, and a roadmap for rediscovering your masculine strength after divorce.

💬 Join the Conversation:

What’s been the biggest challenge for you after divorce? Let us know in the comments below! Your story might inspire someone else on their healing journey.

🛠️ Connect with Augustus Vaughn:

Books, resources, and community links are available at Augustus Vaughn

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If you found this episode helpful, don’t forget to like, comment, and subscribe! New episodes drop weekly, offering tools and stories to help men over 40 overcome challenges and thrive.

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Welcome back to the Don't Pick the Scab Podcast! 🎙️ In this enlightening episode, I have the privilege of welcoming Michele Locke, a distinguished family law attorney with over two decades of experience and a personal journey through divorce. Michele's unique perspective stems not only from her professional expertise but also from her lived experiences, making her insights invaluable for anyone navigating the complexities of divorce later in life.

Divorce can be an overwhelming experience, especially for men over 40 who often face unique challenges. Michele emphasizes the importance of understanding the emotional and financial toll a divorce can take. 💔 She sheds light on critical issues such as navigating financial uncertainty, understanding your rights as a stay-at-home parent, and the intricate emotional processes involved in untangling decades of shared life. Her mission is clear: to empower individuals with the tools they need to thrive after divorce, regardless of age or circumstance.

One of the key themes in this episode is the significance of reframing one's mindset after a divorce. Michele shares that life is about learning and reinvention, encouraging listeners to embrace the idea that it is never too late to start over. 🌟 She provides practical strategies for emotional healing, which include:

1. Seeking Professional Help: Michele advocates for reaching out to therapists or counselors to help process emotions and gain clarity during this tumultuous time. It's essential to care for your mental health and address feelings of anger and confusion.

2. Finding Closure: She humorously suggests throwing a “divorce party” as a way to celebrate the end of one chapter and embrace new beginnings. 🎉 This creative approach allows individuals to take control of their narrative and find closure on their terms.

3. Focusing on the Future: Michele encourages listeners to shift their focus towards building a fulfilling future. This involves setting new goals, exploring hobbies, and nurturing relationships that bring joy and positivity into their lives. 🌈 Find your JOY!

Throughout the episode, Michele emphasizes that divorce doesn't define you; rather, it's a chapter in your life story. By adopting a proactive mindset, you can transform your experience into a journey of growth. She highlights the importance of maintaining a positive relationship with children, reminding parents to avoid sharing adult issues with them, as it can lead to unnecessary stress and confusion.

As you can see/hear, Michele was pretty damn funny at times. I loved her frankness and engaging comments, answers and stories. Gotta get her back on the show again!

As we wrap up this insightful discussion, we invite you to engage with us! 💬 What challenges have you faced in your divorce recovery journey? What strategies have helped you find joy and resilience? Share your thoughts in the comments below!

Join us for this engaging episode filled with valuable advice, laughter, and hope. Remember, healing is a journey, and together, we can navigate the path to a brighter future after divorce. Don't forget to subscribe for more empowering content on the Don't Pick the Scab Podcast! 🕊️

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Welcome to the Don’t Pick the Scab Podcast! 🎙️ In this transformational episode, host David sits down with Jeff Kolez, a tech professional turned divorce coach for fathers, who shares his powerful story of transformation. Jeff’s mission is simple yet profound: to help men rebuild their lives after divorce, reclaim their power, and create a meaningful future. 💪

Jeff opens up about his personal journey, including his struggles to master himself after divorce forced him to confront his pain. He shares how he went from giving away his energy to his ex to finally taking his power back. 🚀 As the founder of Divorce Daddy, Jeff empowers divorced fathers to navigate challenges ethically and effectively, offering tools and guidance to help them heal and thrive.

In this episode, Jeff shares actionable strategies and tools to help men take control of their post-divorce journey, including:

• Gray Rocking: A method to stop reacting emotionally to your ex’s provocations and take back your energy. 🪨

• The Gift of Divorce: How to find the hidden opportunities for growth and self-discovery in your pain. 🎁

• Reconnecting with Yourself: The importance of self-love, self-respect, and emotional awareness as you rebuild your life. 🌟

  
  

Jeff also shares the three daily rituals that helped him heal and regain his sense of self:

1. Daily Movement: Whether it’s walking, exercising, or dancing, moving your body is crucial for releasing pent-up energy and staying grounded. 🏃‍♂️

2. Presence Practice: Activities like meditation, martial arts, or even chopping vegetables can help you stay in the moment and reduce stress. 🧘‍♂️

3. Time in Nature: Reconnect with the outdoors by going for a walk, breathing fresh air, and feeling the sunlight on your skin. 🌳

   
   

Through these simple yet powerful rituals, Jeff explains how to regain your balance and start building a life of purpose and happiness.

Jeff also walks us through his 5-step framework for healing after divorce:

1. Get Emotional Distance: Build boundaries with your ex to stop the cycle of reaction and conflict. 🛑

2. Develop Emotional Awareness: Identify your triggers and start understanding the root of your emotional reactions. 💡

3. Take Responsibility: Own your role in the relationship and focus on what you can control. 🤝

4. Reconnect with Your Heart: Rediscover who you are, learn self-love, and operate from a place of truth. ❤️

5. Start Building: Once you’ve healed, focus on creating a life of strength, purpose, and fulfillment. 🏗️

   
   

   
   

   Jeff emphasizes the importance of self-care and self-love, reminding us that healing begins within. “You can’t rebuild while you’re still bleeding,” he says, urging men to focus on their own growth before trying to fix everything else.

This episode is a must-listen for anyone feeling lost after divorce. Whether you’re struggling with co-parenting, rebuilding your life, or simply trying to find peace, Jeff’s insights will inspire you to take the next step. 🌈

We want to hear from you! 💬 What resonated with you in this episode? What’s been the biggest challenge in your divorce recovery? Drop a comment below and join the conversation. Let’s heal, grow, and thrive together! 👊

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