Welcome back to No Filter Femme, the podcast where we have real, unfiltered conversations by black women, for black women. In this episode, Melia and Kelli Mason are joined by four incredible guests (follow them on Instagram): Lavie (@mslavie), Pamela (@pamelarxhaird.o.c), Shenaye (@shenayecreativetouch), and Tomeka (@tomekajames). Together, they continue the powerful conversation on the theme, “Do Black Women Deserve Good Things?” The discussion explores the importance of setting healthy boundaries, reclaiming our narratives, and fully embracing the good things that come our way, especially as black women over 40.

Show Notes:

[00:00:00 - 00:03:30] Introduction

• Melia and Kelli welcome the audience and introduce the guests: Lavie, Pamela, Shenaye, and Tomeka.

[00:03:31 - 00:12:00] Opening Conversations on Boundaries

• The panel begins discussing how the understanding of boundaries evolves over time.
• Pamela shares her experience of learning to set boundaries in her 50s, particularly in her marriage.

[00:12:01 - 00:22:30] Breaking Free from Societal Expectations

• Lavie opens up about how being a middle child shaped her sense of self-worth and led to a lack of boundaries.
• The impact of societal and familial expectations on how black women view themselves.

[00:22:31 - 00:34:00] Sexual Liberation and Self-Discovery

• The conversation shifts to the importance of sexual satisfaction in relationships.
• Tomeka shares how detaching sex from love helped her regain control over her body and choices.

[00:34:01 - 00:47:00] Navigating Love and Relationships in Your 40s + No Filter Flash Q&A Round

• Shenaye discusses her journey through marriage and divorce, and how she rediscovered herself in her 40s.
• The panel discusses the importance of identifying what they want in relationships and not settling for less.
• No Filter Flash Q&A Round:
  • The guests participate in a fun, rapid-fire Q&A session, where they must answer spontaneous questions about their personal experiences and thoughts on love, life, and self-discovery.

[00:47:01 - 01:00:00] Healing and Reclaiming Your Narrative

• Lavie talks about how hypnosis helped her release trauma and reclaim her narrative.
• Shenaye reflects on her own healing journey and how setting boundaries has allowed her to grow.

[01:00:01 - 01:04:25] Closing Thoughts: Do Black Women Deserve Good Things?

• The panel reflects on how their experiences have shaped their understanding of what it means to deserve good things.
• Melia and Kelli wrap up with a call to action for black women to take control of their narratives, set boundaries, and embrace the good things they deserve.

Episode Closing:

Thank you for joining us for Part 2 of this powerful conversation on No Filter Femme. We hope that the stories shared today have inspired you to reflect on your own journey, your value, and the boundaries you set. Remember, as black women, we are worthy of good things—love, success, happiness—and it’s time we claim them unapologetically.

Be sure to subscribe and tune in for our next episode as we continue having real, unfiltered conversations by black women, for black women. Like, Follow, and Share if you've been impacted by our show @nofilterfemme on all platforms.

Welcome back to No Filter Femme, the podcast where we have real, unfiltered conversations by black women, for black women. In this episode, we're diving into Part 2 of our discussion on the question: Do Black Women Deserve Good Things? We continue to explore the truth that black women do deserve good things and delve deeper into the ways in which we define boundaries, contribute to our own life narratives, and embrace the good things that come our way.

Join Melia and Kelli Mason as they guide you through a heartfelt and empowering conversation that is both introspective and actionable. Discover how to take control of your narrative, set healthy boundaries, and recognize the good things you truly deserve.

Show Notes:

[00:00:00 - 00:01:30] Introduction

• Welcome back to Part 2 of Episode 2: Do Black Women Deserve Good Things?
• Recap of the first part and what listeners can expect in this continuation.
• Acknowledgment of the importance of recognizing that black women are deserving of good things in life.

[00:01:31 - 00:10:00] Defining Boundaries

• Discussion on the importance of setting and maintaining healthy boundaries.
• Personal stories from Melia and Kelli about times when they had to set boundaries in relationships, careers, and other aspects of life.
• Understanding that boundaries are a form of self-care and self-respect.

[00:10:01 - 00:22:30] Contributing to Your Own Life Narrative

• Exploration of the concept of life narratives and how we are the authors of our own stories.
• Reflection on the ways in which we may unknowingly contribute to negative narratives and how to shift towards positive, empowering stories.
• Kelli shares a powerful anecdote about rewriting her life narrative to align with her true worth and desires.

[00:22:31 - 00:30:00] Embracing the Good Things We Deserve

• How to recognize and fully embrace the good things that come our way.
• Discussion on the barriers that prevent black women from accepting good things, including societal expectations, internalized beliefs, and past trauma.
• Examples of ways to practice receiving good things, from small daily moments of joy to significant life changes.

[00:30:01 - 00:37:00] Practical Steps for Empowerment

• Strategies for actively contributing to a positive life narrative.
• Tips on how to reinforce boundaries and ensure they are respected by others.
• The role of community and support systems in helping black women thrive and receive the good things they deserve.

[00:37:01 - 00:39:00] Final Thoughts

• Melia and Kelli reflect on the key takeaways from this two-part episode.
• Reaffirmation that black women deserve good things, and encouragement to continue the journey of self-discovery and empowerment.

Thank you for joining us for Part 2 of this important conversation on No Filter Femme. We hope that our discussion today has given you the tools and inspiration to set boundaries, take control of your life narrative, and embrace all the good things that you deserve. Remember, as black women, we are worthy of love, success, and happiness, and it’s time we start claiming it unapologetically.

Be sure to subscribe and tune in for our next episode where we continue to have real, unfiltered conversations by black women, for black women. Until next time, KNOW YOU ARE DESERVING OF THE BEST!

Welcome back to No Filter Femme, the podcast where we have real, unfiltered conversations by black women for black women.

Today's topic is: Do Black Women Deserve Good Things?

Key Questions:

How do you see your value and how does it shape your life choices?

In which ways are you contributing to your life narrative?

Are you ready to accept love, success, and happiness as you were created to receive it?

Discussion Points:

1. Recognizing Our Worth High-end brands like Chanel, Prada, Hermes, and Valentino never go on sale, symbolizing intrinsic value. Importance of having an internal conversation about self-worth before considering external opinions. Value is not just physical but also includes time, presence, and essence.

2. Overcoming Trauma and Reassessing Value A crumpled $100 bill still retains its value. Importance of reassessing self-worth after experiencing trauma and challenges. Understanding that life experiences don't diminish intrinsic value.

3. Making Life Choices Based on Self-Worth The impact of feeling valued on life choices, including relationships and career. Personal anecdotes from Melia and Kelli about past relationships and the realization of self-worth. The correlation between self-worth and the types of relationships one attracts and maintains.

4. Societal and Cultural Pressures The societal myth that life ends for women after 40 and its impact on self-worth. The importance of patience and recognizing intrinsic value over rushing through life.

5. Relationship Dynamics and Self-Worth Melia and Kelli discuss the impact of past traumas and absent fathers on their self-worth and relationship choices. The role of patience and distance in building a healthy relationship.

The dangers of trying to manipulate or fast-track relationships based on insecurities.

The necessity of internal work and reassessment of worth to foster healthier relationships and life choices. Share your thoughts and experiences with us on social media @nofilterfemme

Thank you for tuning into No Filter Femme. We hope today's discussion has inspired you to reflect on your own value and how it shapes your life choices.

Remember, you are worth all the good things in life. Join us for Part 2 of the conversation on our next episode. Until then, stay true to yourself and keep those conversations real and unfiltered.

Continuing our empowering discussion from Part 1, this episode dives deeper into the nuanced world of boundary-setting for women over 40. We explore the ongoing journey of maintaining and adjusting boundaries as life evolves. This segment focuses on the practical steps and emotional resilience required to ensure these boundaries continue to serve our needs effectively.

We'll hear from experts on the psychology of boundary maintenance and guests who share their personal stories about the challenges and victories in keeping their boundaries intact against external pressures and internal doubts. Listeners will learn about the importance of self-reflection in the boundary-setting process, how to handle situations when boundaries are tested, and strategies for reinforcing them without guilt.

Join us as we continue to navigate the essential, yet often challenging, waters of establishing a life where personal boundaries are not only set but also respected and upheld. This conversation aims to provide continued support and guidance for women redefining their limits in pursuit of a more balanced and fulfilling life.

In the premiere of "Redefining Boundaries Over 40," we embark on an explorative journey into the essential art of boundary setting as black women over 40 step into a pivotal phase of life. This episode illuminates the transformative power of recognizing when boundaries are necessary, the challenges encountered in establishing them, and the perseverance required to maintain them. We delve into the emotional and practical aspects of saying 'no,' the liberation found in asserting one's space, and how these boundaries influence personal and professional relationships.

Listeners will gain insights into the complexities of navigating the rough seas of boundary setting, including the backlash that sometimes follows and the inner strength needed to uphold one's limits. This discussion isn't just about defining space—it's about reclaiming your power and crafting a life on your own terms. Join us as we uncover the tools and strategies for successfully setting and sticking to boundaries that protect and empower you at 40 and beyond.