Ever feel trapped by that relentless inner critic pointing out your every flaw? We’ve all been there!

In today’s episode, Dr. Charlie Hornes shares how she broke free from anxiety and people-pleasing to become a master life coach. She’ll unpack the science behind your brain’s obsession with negativity and how neuroplasticity lets you rewrite those outdated patterns.

Discover why your brain clings to survival instincts like safety and harm avoidance, and learn how to turn those limiting narratives into empowering ones. She walks you through crafting your personal thesis statement, transforming self-defeating “I am” statements, and even writing a love letter to your future self.

It’s time to silence that inner critic, reclaim your narrative, and lead with confidence.

(09:00) Inner Narrative and Imposter Syndrome

(23:00) Perspective and Self-Perception

(28:13) Rewiring Your Brain Through Thought Work

(32:28) Overcoming Negative Self-Narratives

(47:58) Rewriting and Aligning Self-Narratives

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Ready to thrive as a confident, resilient leader? In this episode, Dr. Charlie Hornes reveals how high-achieving women in male-dominated fields can overcome the weight of unrealistic expectations. Learn how to ditch anxious people-pleasing and transform into a self-assured leader armed with tools to handle unreasonable demands like a pro.

We dive into how survival instincts impact our reactions in high-pressure situations, especially around the holidays. Dr. Charlie breaks down the societal pressures and double standards women face, from imposter syndrome to setting boundaries. You’ll get practical strategies to turn impulsive reactions into deliberate actions and learn how to set limits gracefully with “I statements.”

It’s all about building your boundary muscle and aligning your actions with your values.

(01:50) Survival Mechanism Impacting Women Leaders

(15:34) Balancing Domestic Labor in the Workplace

(21:17) Gender Roles and Workplace Expectations

(26:45) Navigating Imposter Syndrome in Leadership

(32:06) Shifting Perspective on Leadership Challenges

(35:55) Navigating Expectations and Herd Mentality

(39:21) Questioning Expectations, Shifting Mindsets

(43:44) Overcoming Socialized Patriarchy Expectations

(47:13) Building Boundaries for Confidence and Purpose

As a recovering anxious people-pleaser, Dr. Charlie has discovered that managing my thoughts is key to finding peace—especially during the holidays. In this episode, she shares her journey to becoming a life coach and how understanding that fears and anxieties are just interpretations, not facts, can help us regain emotional control. She'll break down thought patterns that sabotage our peace, like fear of rejection, and offer practical strategies to tackle self-doubt and perfectionism.

Learn how shifting your perspective without changing circumstances can boost confidence and help you navigate the holiday season easily and joyfully.

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Ready to ditch people-pleasing and reclaim your emotional power? In this episode, Dr. Charlie Hornes shares her journey from anxious pleaser to certified life coach by mastering emotional adulthood. You'll learn that it’s not external situations but your thoughts that shape your emotions.

Discover how taking responsibility for your feelings shifts you from blame to self-awareness, giving you control over your emotional life. We’ll also explore how choosing love and compassion—especially during stressful times—can transform your relationships. Plus, you’ll learn a simple five-step process for owning your emotions and reshaping impulsive reactions. Get ready to enjoy a peaceful, stress-free holiday season with practical tools for emotional empowerment!

(05:52) Ownership of Feelings in Relationships

(14:07) Choosing Love Over Assumptions

(21:51) Navigating Holiday Stress and Miscommunication

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In this powerful episode, Dr. Charlie Hornes sits down with Retired Command Chief Master Sergeant Casy Boomershine, a trailblazing woman in the Air Force who shattered gender barriers in one of the most male-dominated military fields. Together, they explore the invisible hurdles women face as leaders in the military and male-dominated industries, from the emotional toll of constant gender bias to the strategic moves women need to rise through the ranks. Chief Boomershine shares the critical importance of building resilience, owning your voice, and how women can gain respect without losing themselves. This episode is a must-listen for any high-achieving woman feeling stuck in a system built to hold her back—and is ready to reclaim her power and leadership role.

Key Insights

•Real strategies for handling subtle (and not so subtle) gender bias in leadership.

•Emotional intelligence as a game-changer for women in male-dominated environments.

•How to stop conforming and start commanding respect on your own terms.

•The power of resilience and mentorship in breaking career barriers.

•Practical tools for women to confidently lead without compromising their authenticity.

Chapters

00:00 - Introduction

02:00 - Chief Boomershine’s Early Military Journey: Breaking Barriers

10:35 - Navigating a Male-Dominated Military Career

20:45 - Emotional Intelligence: A Key to Leadership Success

28:30 - Facing Gender Bias: Strategies for Thriving

35:45 - Breaking the Mold: Thriving as a Woman in Leadership

42:00 - Lessons from the Top: Chief Boomershine’s Leadership Journey

50:00 - Final Thoughts: Empowering Women to Lead Authentically

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Ready to unlock your emotional power and transform your mindset? In this episode, Dr. Charlie explores the science of resilience and how mastering your thoughts can lead to emotional freedom. We’ll redefine resilience—not just bouncing back, but using it as a tool for real change.

Dr. Charlie breaks down neuroplasticity and shows how, with practice, you can rewire your brain and replace unhelpful thoughts with ones that boost your well-being. Learn how shifting your perspective can help you overcome inadequacy and handle emotions without letting them control your self-worth.

Tune in for practical tools, masterclasses, and a quiz to help you build emotional resilience and handle life’s challenges with ease!

Listen in to learn more:

* Life-Changing Joy of Teaching | 0:00:00 - 0:02:21

* Building Resilience Through Thought Work | 0:10:40 - 0:12:28

* Insight on True Resilience | 0:20:38 - 0:22:12

* Taking Control of Your Reactions | 0:27:22 - 0:30:26

* Rewiring Your Brain for Resilience | 0:31:50 - 0:33:18

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In Part 2, we continue our conversation with Christine, host of the Holy Shift podcast, as she dives even deeper into her journey of faith and the power of embracing tough questions about God, spirituality, and healing. Christine reflects on the evolving nature of faith and the importance of creating a welcoming community for diverse perspectives.

We explore the challenges of balancing faith with real-world struggles, how rethinking traditional teachings has reshaped her approach to ministry, and the profound impact of mutual submission and sacrificial love in relationships. Christine also shares more about the role of transformative literature and female theologians in expanding our understanding of faith and theology.

Join us for more thought-provoking insights on breaking religious molds, healing from spiritual wounds, and building an authentic relationship with God.

Listen in to learn more :

• Diverse Audience Seeking Spiritual Understanding | 0:04:21 - 0:05:28
• Exploring Faith and Questioning Beliefs | 0:08:48 - 0:10:47
• Understanding God's View of Dignity | 0:16:24 - 0:17:55
• Mutual Submission in Marriage | 0:20:01 - 0:21:31
• Women's Role in Early Christianity | 0:29:48 - 0:31:34
• Female Theologians and Power Dynamics | 0:35:56 - 0:37:39

Website - https://theholyshift.org/about/

`Podcast - https://theholyshift.org/podcast/

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